I'm very happy to hear that your thoughts have changed as well but your previous thinking is very much the norm in the world isn't it? Too bad that so many people are agist and most of it is fear based as well.
I just came back from a camping trip with 6 of our 8 children...our twin 1 year old DD's being the youngest and on the first morning I met a man who is the father of 10 children...the youngest were twin DD's as well. Throughout the week I got to know this family....I had several conversations with the husband and his wife...she was amazing. When I met her I said do you get the comment that she looked really wonderful for having 10 kids and she said she got it all the time...and her response was always...'how often do you meet someone who has 10 children?'...AND what are they suppose to look like?
She had their twins at age 41...and they commented to me that it was remarkable that I had had my twins even later than that....I did not go into the details that we used DE's to complete our family as it was obvious that they were a religious based family and I had no way of knowing how they would take it but they said something about the only draw back to having children later in life is that you are so much older when your youngest finally grow up...have children of their own etc.
I didn't want to say this to them but boy was I thinking it...through our conversations they often talked about 'faith' and I wanted to say...where is your faith...where is your trust that all will work out exactly how it is meant. They also talked about God willing things...AND i also 'thought' well if that is the case then God Willed my DE babies as well...no matter how our children are conceived....naturally...or with the advancement of technology to create an embryo and then transfer it...these babies were all meant to be and if we are truly living well we will trust that all will always work out...enjoying the joys and learning through the trials.
I wish I had challenged this couples thinking with regards to age and children but hey we were on holidays and I just wanted to enjoy the experience but it's too bad that so many people on this planet have such strong opinions about how babies should be created AND also when they are best suited to come to earth.
If you are healthy and have the energy to raise your children what age does it matter?...it's just number...we ususally only realize this after we have lived a bit of a life and know how fleeting it all is. My oldest DD is now 22 years old and after we told her how her younger siblings came to be she was in awe....she says that this gives her the courage to go after her dreams and live fully, knowing she can manifest anything she wants on earth.
Well this got into a long post but I wanted to welcome you to the board...and in answer to your question...Maggie is right, most of us have used DE's to have our children over 50 and usually if someone has a pgcy over 50, sadly it usually ends in a m/c so we don't have any board members who continue to stay on the board and talk about the parenting aspect over 50.
I had our last oe baby at 43...I had my last oe pgcy at 47 which ended in a chemical pgcy...the one before that was at age 45 when I lost the pgcy at 8 weeks so you are doing great to get out of the first trimester. Are you going to do an amnio?...what are your thoughts on prenatal testing?
Well, I'd better run as I hear my little ones up from their nap but I hope you continue to post and share your experience with us all....as you may find...it really doesn't matter how our babies are conceived...they are all miracles and usually we get beyond the conception stuff and get down to the details of the material world...'what does a baby really need in a nursery...what kind of car seat to buy...what to pack for the hospital...do you buy a breast pump?...all that sort of stuff...we talk about it all and also our feelings of being mom's at an age that most think it nuts. We are not...we are warriors leading a new generation and hopefully changing societies thinking.
Blessings from Hope