Natural conception at 52 years of age.November 19 2006 at 6:27 PM
|mom again (no login)|
I am 52 and just found out that I am pregnant. I was preganant at 43, 33 and 19. Married, all resulted in healthy babies. At 19, my baby was born prematurely and weighed 2 pounds 5 ounces but was a healthy preemie and will turn 34 at then end of this year. With that pregnancy, I hemorraghed and labor was induced.
My next pregnancy when I was 33 lasted about 2-1/2 weeks "too long" and our son was delivered via c-section, but healthy. The doctors called him an "old baby", lol.
At the age of 43, I delivered our third baby which was very much a surprise pregnancy. The baby, a son, is healthy and also delivered via c-section. With both of those pregnancies, the boys were face up with the umbilical cord wrapped around their neck x2. I am also told that my pelvis is small.
Now, at the age of 52, when I never even imagined that I would ever be pregnant again, I am! I conceived naturally, I don't understand all the talk about how people think it can't be possible, that someone like me had to have had donor eggs or IVF. My husband is also 52. There is nothing special about us. I have always had a 28 - 29 day cycle and even felt ovulation recently - or so I thought. Guess it was true.
I did nothing special - no diets, herbs, pills, treatment and certainly wasn't trying to conceive. But here I am, pregnant. I have never felt old and do not think old, but I probably look my age... I feel healthy, very healthy indeed, and my husband and I have always carried out an an active life. I just have no idea why we have had one baby per decade, but with that in mind - and if we are alive and healthy come 10 more years - one of us will be fixed! We are not unhappy about this pregnancy and I already know that my husband is happy and going to be very supportive.
With no disrespect to another's belief, I am not particularly religous and do not believe there was any divine intervention or that this was any gods will. I respect that some people do feel this way, but I just don't. Scientifically, I had at least one more good egg, and my husband obviously "found" it! Ha! So now comes the wait, to see if this too will become a viable pregnancy and result in another healthy baby.
|November 19 2006, 7:18 PM |
And, yes, "regular" conceptions do take place after 50, just not very often. You're one of the lucky ones who didn't have to go through just about every medical intervention known to man. I'm hoping for you that this pregnancy goes well for you.
How far along are you?
Re: Wonderful news
|November 19 2006, 7:46 PM |
Hello and thank you! As far as I know, I am just at 6 weeks (I used a preganancy wheel calculator) so will be calling around to find an OB/GYN.
More than you asked, but frankly, I was very surprised to learn I was pregnant because I had never given any thoughts to pregnancy at my age and never realized (until just now from reading) that there are women in their fifties who are trying to conceive. My heart goes out to them.
As soon as I suspected, I searched the web for pregnancy over 50, but could only find mention by younger women who were overly critical of anyone past the age of 30 being pregnant! I was stunned by that and when my test showed positive, my thoughts reverted to those posts and I immediately felt shame and began crying, telling my husband that I cannot do this at my age, people will laugh at us and make fun of us. I felt panic, I am certain, as my chest was tight and breathing felt like I was suffocating. He gently held my face in his hands telling me how much he loved me and said, "we will get through this, I am happy!" And he is! I fell asleep knowing that he would be supportive and awoke feeling like a renewed person.
Then I found these forums, and after reading, felt more at ease and definitely more comfortable. I just had no idea that pregnancy happened at my age, I had never read about it like this (my ignorance) and even my doctor has tried to blame medical situations on menopause, but did some test said it was not that afterall. However, he never warned me that I could get pregnant either! Ha!
So sad that there are so many who are critical
|November 20 2006, 8:06 AM |
Some people just never learned what is their business, and what isn't. I was taught very early on that learning that difference was one of the greatest stress reducers of all.
You definitely have nothing to feel ashamed about. Rather, just the opposite. You should feel so proud.
If you're not doing it already--go get yourself a bottle of prenatal vitamins and some folic acid and start taking them right away. And, you're right to get to an ob-gyn very soon. The sooner the better. If you live near enough to a city to go to a major medical center, you might be better off there. They're usually more used to dealing with older mothers and don't treat you like a disease, but just like any other mother-to-be. In fact, my perinatologist (high-risk ob-gyn dr) told me at the outset that I definitely wasn't her oldest patient (and she did just fine). Another good thing about a medical center is that if you do need high-risk care, it's right there and quickly available if needed.
I'm just so happy for you. And, I'm so glad for you that you've got that great guy as a husband. I'm sure he's going to be a great support, and a great daddy again.
Re: So sad that there are so many who are critical
|December 11 2012, 12:26 PM |
Just wondering if you had a healthy baby later in life? Thanks
That is wonderful news
|May 26 2008, 8:05 PM |
Have no concern over younger women being "exclusive" with regard to pregnancy. It's silly and they will learn that when they reach our status.
Currently, I'm 50, pregnant with twins and feeling pretty fabulous physically. I'm due in October and am humbled that life decided to give me the opportunity to be a first time Mom.
I'm glad that you have found this site and hope that you will continue to keep us informed as you progress!
Re: That is wonderful news
|December 11 2012, 12:27 PM |
How did your pregnancy turn out? Healthy twins? Thanks
how about you ?
|February 11 2013, 12:19 AM |
apparently you are the most recent post . are you trying too ?
|Maggie in VA|
NOTE THAT THIS POST IS FROM 2006! nt
|December 29 2014, 12:02 PM |
I'm so happy
|November 28 2006, 2:54 PM |
I'm so happy to hear about your conception at the ripe young age of 52. Forget the naysayers-I suspect they may be a tad bit jealous and/or fearful-neither of which has a place in this pregnancy experience.
Your news makes me particularly joyful and reaffirms my "gut" feeling that being in your 50s is not too old to conceive. We're close to the same age and it is my fervent prayer to be able to have a baby. Problem is I am not currently married nor in a committed relationship. Heck, I'm not even dating! . . . but that's another story for another time (lol)!!!!
Best of everything to you and your family!
Love the gut feelings
|November 27 2011, 2:12 AM |
Dear MCAM - You are amazing - miracles happen moment by moment... just keep focusing on your gut feelings. I see you married, pregnant, loved and adored.. and then happily in a family.
You can do this!
|April 18 2014, 1:02 AM |
mcam, I also feel the same way. I'm barely dating after being widowed, and I'm praying that I can have a baby somehow. I just read that men can have vasectomies and not tell a woman so that kind of shocked me a little bit! So now I'm trying to figure out how to ask a guy if he would do a semen analysis.
|This message has been edited by jb136 on Apr 19, 2014 9:42 PM|
|November 28 2006, 5:07 PM |
You have truly made my day!
I turned 51 years old on September 20, 2006. I got married when I was 19 years old. I had my first child when I was 21 years old and another child when I was 23 years old. I was married to my husband for 30 years and loved him dearly. He passed away from pancreatic cancer in December 2005.
I thought my husband would be the only true love in my life. But in February 2006, quite by accident (Rendevous of the Queen Mary's in Long Beach, California), I met a wonderful man. His birthday is one day after mine, September 21. He has never been married nor has he ever had a child.
I am in love with him and I dream of having a child with him. He has curly blonde hair and the most beautiful blue eyes and wonderful smile. He is so talented, too. Most people would think that I am crazy! Your story has given me hope to not give up on an idea such as this.
I believe that your story came to me today because I needed to keep believing! I believe in divine intervention and you are an angel sent to me. With the Lord, all things are possible.
Congratulations to you and your husband. I am sure your child will be beautiful and feel blessed to have the both of you as parents.
Have a wonderful day!
Same boat as you
|June 29 2008, 6:21 PM |
I am in the same situation as you I was married for 25 years I have 3 children. I divorced my husband then I met the love of my life in 2005 we got married in 2007 I want nothing more than to have his baby. We are both 53. Wow it's great to find someone who is thinking the same crazy thing as I am. It would have to be natural we can't afford fertility drugs or invitro. I am going to start trying. I have an IUD so I am having it removed in July. Wish me luck and any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
|February 11 2013, 12:07 AM |
could you share your experience ? I'm turning 50, also have an IUD, considering to be mom once more after 13 years.
Me too... at 50
|December 23 2006, 6:13 PM |
I just got married in September, and just found out that I am pregnant. I had my last baby at age 31, in 1987. Like you, I also conceived naturally - I thought my cycle had stopped due to menopause as it had stopped for nearly a year twice before. Surprise! I'm due in June.
|December 23 2006, 7:19 PM |
So glad to hear about your pregnancy. You'll have to keep us all updated as things progress. You must be beaming.
How is the bay?
|January 20 2007, 11:08 AM |
I read your response and wanted to know how is the baby?
Baby due in June
|January 20 2007, 11:09 AM |
Sorry about that I just realized that your baby isnt due until June.
|June 29 2008, 6:23 PM |
Wow I am so excited to read more than one entry about women getting pregnant naturally at 52 I am 53 and after reading all of these entries I have some hope thank you all so much!!