I could use advice. I found out yesterday I am pregnant, I will be 51 when the baby is born. I am divorced, with three teen agers and I am in shock. I love my boyfriend, but we are both in our 50s. I could use help, support, advice!

you must have so many mixed emotions. take a deep breath and see a high risk ob/gyn. And a therapist is a wonderful way to go, i see one who specializes in fertility. But in general any therapist will assist you in weighing the odds, and exploring your feelings. It's a lot to process but you can do it! Support coming your way!

Thank you for your help and support. My boyfriend is not interested in pursuing this pregnancy, he is 57, I will be 51 soon. He is concerned that we won't even be there for the child's life, if the pregnancy is viable. I can understand his worries. What a mess this is. I am seeing a therapist today.

there is a book I just read a review for that I will look up later. About a woman who was sure she would not get pregnant due to circumstances and finds herself pregnant and all the feelings that happened when she found out, not only for herself but for her fiance.
I will post it later.
For now, so glad you are seeing a therapist. I go to one and I have grown so much in sorting my feelings in general, and when life throws you a curve, it's wonderful to have that space, time, and expert to assist you in sorting out your feelings and needs.

Sending you best wishes and peace.

Hello

I have just discovered that I am pregnant... am 52 yrs old. Would love to know the name of the book you refer to.... having difficulties finding perspectives on unplanned late in life pregnancies and am looking to understand my own feelings. Would be a help to read others experiences. I have a therapist - will be seeing her as well!

thanks.

Before you do anything that can't be undone, you should sit down and have a long talk about this, preferably with someone like a therapist who can help you work through your emotions around this situation.

Also, as others have said, you need to see an appropriate physician also, not just for the unborn child, but for yourself.  A pregnancy may or may not be advisable all depending on your own physican health.

As you know, the pregnancy might not be viable.  However, it might be. 

You've said how your boyfriend feels about it--but how do you feel about it??????

Annie