I definitely know how you feel. I had this on and off since I was 19..got it drained and the word catheter and everything. I would also like the gland removed, have been doing some research about others who have done it and there are some mix feelings. I read one blog where a woman said that sex to her is now a horror because it is a gland that helps lubricate you when you are sexually aroused. but i was thinking you can always use lube
..then I read that the surgery can get a little messy, you will lose some tissue down there. The only advice I can give you is find a doctor who has experiences with removing this gland and get educated with the whole procedure from beginning to end, recovery time too.