Omg, you poor women!!!! I so know how you all feel! I had my first Bartholin abcess during my first pregnancy 12 years ago!!! it was the size of a tennis pain and it was the worse pain I have ever felt in my life!!! I have at least 5 or 6 recurrences over the last 12 years!!! I dont wish this on even my worst enemy!!!! I am currently experiencing the painful abcess as we I speak!! I currently dont have a gyno and I dread going to the hospital because the last time I had one the dr's were totally clueless and gave me antibiotics and told me to take tylenol or motrin!! unfornately while I am going thru this agony right now I am also going thru my menstrual and that is even making it harder for me going to the hospital to have it taken care of because like its not embarrassing enough just having the abcess i have to have my period along with it! I am really sorry all of you have to all go thru this but I must say it makes me feel better to know that I am not alone!