I am a married woman finally discovering the real me. Living in a small community it isn't possible for me to have a real-life relationship with a woman. Not yet anyway. Is it possible that there is a discreet female 'out there' reading this who would be happy with an on-line relationship? I am in my late forties and attractive.

Sweety don't do that to yourself you never know who is on the other end of the key bord. Don't do that to your man leave him before you start to cheat on him. Men have a hard time when Women leave them for a woman. if you ever loved this man break it off with him first...

It is possible to have online reltionships. I had a really good one going for about 5 years. It ended over a disagreement about religion. At least, it seems to be what ended it. She accused me of being arrogant, too, but- I think she was PO'd about somehting else when she said that.

I have online relationships with several people. I treasure them very much.

Of course you have to be careful, and you have to use your head. Don't trust people with a bunch of personal information and the normal rules.

You might try PlanetOut, or Match.com. They have some good resources for online relationships.