Again, accessorize appropriately. An attractive lighter (not paper matches or, perish the thought, a Bic - and a Zippo only if you've just crawled off your Harley, please) extended halfway to the lady (she should come to the flame - her eyes should smoulder, her eyelashes should not), offers the opportunity for the first caress - her fingertips against your hand. If more than the lighter sends up sparks, proceed with your courting, Tiger.