So, yesterday I went shopping for corsets and things like that. Um...BIG mistake! Yeah I haven't grown that much but have had some swelling and thought that maybe I could give some of these lingerie stores a shot.

I am going to Vegas for my b-day at the end of the month and I wanted to find a corset top. Anyways, well I go into a few stores, but this one store, this lady made me feel so horrible! I almost left crying! She was one of those types of sales people that will make sure that you leave with something.

In the beginning, she was nice and asked me my size and of course, that embarrassed me because you know, I am tiny. Well she had me try a few things on and the fitting rooms had curtains as a door. I tried on this boustier corset thing, she asked me how I was doing and of course I was looking at myself in the mirror with it on, and I was like uhhhh okay...THEN she pushed back the curtain to the fitting room to look at me!!! I was like AHH. And she stops and she looks and says oh honey you just don't fill that out, and thats the smallest size we have. I was like I know, I don't fill the stupid thing out I KNOW!! I was so upset. I didn't try anything else on, and I left. I just wanted to rant to everyone, I was really sad, still am. Talk about crushing your self esteem!

How nice of her to belittle you...a customer. I know you may have been hurt but you should give her some attitude. If that was me I would have given her a mouthful. Then I would ask to speak to her supervisor and complain about her demeanor and suggest that they evalaute the meaning of CUSTOMER SERVICE!

What a rude lady. She probably have her own issues and feel better by putting someone else down. You dont have to have big boobs to be sexy, it is all about sharm and sexappel. if you are confident about your self you will be sexy no matter what size you are, big or small. I used to have a C cup before i got my child. I miss it (are a small b now) but at the same time i got a lot of wrong attention, a lot of guys just looked at my boobs and not me. I got confident because i got attention, but know now it was a false confidense. We have to stop worry about what everyone else think and if they have another opinon so what. Just think about that lady like this: i rather be a person with small boobs and a good hart than a stuck up bit.. with low selfimage that have to put someone else down to feel better.

what a silly woman, it happened to me a few years ago in Italy, I was trying on a bikini, and the shop assistant said the same thing, I was so depressed, beauty is within one's self,
please don't let it get to you, life is too short
CHEER UP!
Laura
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I'm sorry to hear that woman made you feel that way. You know I hear that happening to a lot of women to go in places like that....victoria's secret and such. What in the H is wrong with these sales ladies to bring someone down like that?...must be to make themselves feel better cause they get some sort of pleasure out of it. And for her to just open the curtain unrespectably like that, I agree with pringles the supervisor should have been notified of her demeanor. So just try not to let it bother you or get you down...she's not in your life, so thank God you don't have to deal with her ever again. :) Like tms81 said, you can still be sexy no matter what breast size you have. You could use this as a positive thing though....make you that much more determined to gain the size you want. Hey and the real kicker is once you grow to the size you want...I would march right back in that store and hopefully the same lady would be working and THEN try on some corsets and let's see how she reacts this time...when you fill it up all the way!!!! :)BAM! Whatcha got to say now lady?? haha

Breast wishes to you and everyone!!!

Hey, I know it must have felt terrible. Many times I walked out of lingerie shop feeling that way too. Don't be upset because I'm sure you will grow bigger and bigger!
There was this one time I went to this lingerie shop which ran out of A cup bra and the sales assistant kept insisting I am a C cup (when I look so flat) just to bring in sales figure and to fill her pocket. It was definitely an ego boost but I knew for sure I am not a C! so I asked for an A, her face changed and her smile was gone, she said "A cup is too small for anyone we don't have it." I think that service is really bad! I definitely don't look like a C cup (but I might after this program..hehe)She just want the money, what the H!

Don't worry, we will soon fill up the C-Cup!

What you can do is,get yourself the closest fitting corset that there is, and have a seamstress make it fit!! My best friend back home does that all the time because she is like a d 1/2...so a d is too small and dd is too big ( I should have that problem lol) so she alters it herself,or her mom does. That is just an idea hun. And who gives a rats patootie what the old wench said,you will have bigger ,beautiful boobies soon and she will just NOT make the sell...huh??? Best of luck

im sure she didnt mean to make you feel so bad... but she did, and you have to move on from it... i agree with michelle: keep doing your program and when you have grown you march back in there and you try on that corset top and show them you can fill it out and then some! and THEN dont buy it... go to another store to get it, because this store doesnt need any of your hard-earned money!

put it aside, dont focus on it or let it get you down... use it as ammunition to tell yourself that you WILL grow and get yourself on the right, positive track!

big hugs and good boobie wishes

Yeah, that has happened to me before on several occasions.
It caused me to develop what I call 'stealth shopping' for bras:

1. You go into big department stores so no one ever offers to help you (if anyone does ask - you are just looking).

2. You select a bra or two in what you hope is your size and if possible pay for it at a register other than the lingere area (helps if you are buying something else at the time).

3. You try it on at home - curse because it doesn't fit - then return it to the store. (it helps if you have something else to return at the same time and act as if you were shopping for someone else)

Using this method I have managed to purchase about a hundred bras that didn't work and one bra that did work. I then went back and bought as many as I could afford of that bra (it was padded in just the right way).

Unfortunately those incredible bras have begun to wear out and the store I got them from went out of business. This sent me to the internet where I was about to do the online version of my stealth bra shopping ---- that's what led me to discovering NBE and eventually this forum. (Thank God!)

Recently, however, I went to purchase a bra because I wanted one to take my 'before' picture in. You know, so you can show yourself bursting out of it when you have achieved some growth (like Michelle's great pics). I did the stealth purchase and because the bras were very cheap I bought 5 to try on. When I returned them I got stopped at the front of the store where this matronly woman had to stamp each of the bras for return. (She told me she only purchases her bras at some outlet mall where she got them two for one, etc, implying what a fool I was for buying them at this store 'doncha know'... ugh.) Then at the return desk there was this seriously complicated procedure the women went through in doing the return and at the end she says with a smirk 'Did you finally find one that fit?'

I didn't smack her, but my imagination did...

Best wishes,
waxingmoon

The most infuriating boobie experience I had was a few months ago. One of my friends from childhood who I hadn't seen in six years came to visit me. Well, the last time he'd seen me I was 14 and an A cup. Now, I'm 20 and STILL and A cup (*rollseyes*). So when I went to my parents' house, he was sitting with my mom and dad in the living room, and I walked in, waering this tight, white shirt that instead of making my bust looks bigger, only accentuates my flatness. As soon as he saw me, his eyes went straight to my boobs for like a split second (I still caught it, though) and he said, "Wow. . .you NEVER change."

Thanks, buddy. Idiot.

So don't worry hun, at least the witch wasn't someone you knew personally.

Wait--- Why would you take a before picture in a padded bra??

Ha,ha. Yeah, people know just what to say, don't they.

I was at a holiday gathering with family one year. I had just begun to wear padded bras. My aunt took one look at me and said "Your looking BETTER!"

Luckily, my then fiance, now my husband over heard this and that catch-fraise has become one of our favorites.

Best wishes,
waxingmoon

Not a padded bra this time. These were unpadded and all a big failure since I don't fit an A cup and even the 'nearly A' swamps me. I finally took a picture in a unlined sports bra and also 'natural'.

I will have to be a lot bigger than I am now before those photos ever see the light of day...


Best wishes,
waxingmoon

Huh, that sales lady was one huge idiot not to mention unprofessional. A sale attendant has no buisines peering into the warderobe while changing. I mean.. wtf, I can't believe the lack of professionality and even manners! Were it me, I would yell at her.
Don't feel down honey, just keep to your NBE and remember - patience, you'll get there. ;)

I have a similar story to tell:
I went to a dinner party on friday and my friend who is skinny and gorgeous with a shapely body complained that she needed to go the gym, so of course everyone said that she looked great and that it was better to have curves than to "have no boobs and skinny"!!! a WOMAN said that while looking at me!!! and of course the man next to men starting laughing. I couldnt tell how horrible i felt, and of course i was too mortified to say anything back because i wanted to get off the topic asap - no point in dragging it out. and then someone said something about how 'real women have curves'.

what the ***** is about all this talk about how real women have curves???????/ i know its meant to say that real women arent stick then, but then it's saying that real women should be curvy like barbie. ......... everytime someone complains about losing weight theres always someone that looks at me and says ' well its better than being skinny', and i'm not even that skinny at all i've got love handles!! i just wish that women would stop making themselves feel better by comparing themselves to other women

I have a similar "friend." She's basically got the body every woman wants. She's a size 1, but when she puts on a bikini, there isn't a bone visible in sight. So she's skinny, but you can't aay she's anorexic. She's got round boobs and is a size C. She's got a booty too. Not to mention a face that would catch attention even if she was fat.

So basically she's perfect. And she knows this. So she's obviously very conceited, but instead of being bluntly conceited, she pretends to be modest by complaining about everything ("Oh, I'm so ugly!", "I hate my body! It's so weird!") so of course everyone rushes to her rescue by drowning her in compliments.

It's SO annoying!!

We all seem to have these similar interactions. I bet each of you can recount a number of these uncomfortable encounters. Why is it we know enough not to insult a woman if she is overweight, but if the woman has small breasts then we can talk negatively right in front of her.

It's this kind of prejudice that led me to wearing padded bras, even though I feel like a fraud. And it's not like I am seriously fooling anyone. Anyone with half a brain could tell I 'pad' but I hope nobody knows just how much is bra and how much is me.

It's all well and good for someone to tell you to be 'proud' of what you have. I've been that road and the negativity finally crushed me down. Seriously, the number if times I have been accused of being 'too thin' as in 'anorexic' are too many to number. I am within an appropriate weight for my height - but let anyone get a look at my real chest and they treat me like I am diseased.

Until this bulletin board I have been hiding my breasts from the world as my secret shame. It is such a relief to find that I don't have to change the world, that I can safely and effectively change this one thing about myself.

I don't believe that having larger breasts will make me a better person in any way. It will however make me more comfortable around others and with myself. It already has. I have grown through NBE, and even though I am still smaller than most people who start NBE - I am proud of my little rascals.

Thanks to all of you on this board who have helped me achieve this new mindset. I am having fun with this 'hobby'. I look forward to reading your experiences.

Best wishes,
waxingmoon

Personally, although I've had some bad encounters with this, I haven't had many. Most people out there, I believe DO have the sense not to insult women's breasts. My main motivation for doing this is because I want to have the body I think would look nicest on me. I know that there are some people who look great with small chests, but I am not one of those people. I unfortunately don't have a headturning face. I'm average. So really, even if the whole world like how I look right now, I still wouldn't be happy because this isn't the way that I want to be.

It's really all for me and reaching my preferred image.

i even pad my bikinis! everything was padded. but i have been more comfortable With my size lately. i have been ripping out all the padding out of my bra 's i an tired of hiding. around my mother in law with the 38c/d she complains about and says anything bigger than i am now wouldnt look right. or her daughter w 36c who cant possibly comprehend why i even want them in the 1st place. thats ok. i just want to feel comfortable in my skin, u know? just 4 me. thanks ladies for giving me so much hope

oh i just remember one incident from last spring. i was chatting with this coursemate of mine and suppose i was asking what kind of girls he likes and he replied the ones that have breasts. i am still not very sure if i heard right and if it was meant like that but sure u can imagine how i felt. but i made a happy face cos to me he's not a man either.

Thank you ladies!!

I am so fortunate and just appreciative that I am apart of this forum. I know that we all go through these things, but your support really makes me feel 100 times better. Its been a couple of days now, and with all of the positive encouragement, I KNOW that I will grow, I am not giving up!!! Thats what they want!! But I won't fail, nah uh I will keep on going, I am in this no matter how long it takes!! AND I WILL, go back when I do have my C cups and show her what's up!!

Thanks again ladies!! Hugs to everyone and good luck!!!

I used to work in a thrift store, and since the store had a no-returns policy women would frequently ask me to try on a shirt or jacket that they wanted to buy for someone else, to get an idea of what it looked like on. There were so many times when a woman would say, "Oh this won't work, you have such a small chest. So-and-so is much bigger than you." And there was even one time when this older lady came up to my register and started laughing and said - completely unprovoked!!! - that I was so tiny and looked like I needed a training bra! Strangely, the men who came to the store (the regular cutomers that I knew) always told me that I had a great body and should be a model! So I always had to tell myself that the girls who say nasty things are either jealous, or they don't like themselves and feel they have to make others feel bad about themselves, too.