When I first found this forum a couple of months ago, I thought what a wonderful supportive environment this was and I am really impressed with how helpful people are, particularly because for many of us this is a very personal journey. It saddens me to see people arguing over photos that people have been brave enough to post in the first place and then to see other people being criticised for not posting photos of their success. To those who post photos - thankyou, it is inspirational. To those who would prefer not to, after recent events here, I can understand why. Let's make sure this forum remains a safe, informative, supportive, positive place to be.
re: PHOTOS - Damned if you do and damned if you don't
December 8 2006, 6:41 AM
I agree Yvonne, - I usually look forward to visiting this forum each day or two to see what has been happening,gain new information, have a giggle and generally feel like I'm not alone on this quest. NBE seems to be hard enough without the negativity that seems to be creeping in - PLEASE PLAY NICE OR NOT AT ALL !!!!
Re: PHOTOS - Damned if you do and damned if you don't
December 8 2006, 6:49 AM
I've been reading this forum for ages, even though I haven't posted much. This has always been such a friendly, supportive group, and that's what makes it so wonderful (along with the wealth of information). Let's keep encouraging and educating each other and just ignore the troublemakers. They don't deserve this board and they certainly don't deserve our attention.
yes thats why I dont respond to negativity full stop !!!! I belive in only saying whats helpful and posative and I belive thats what EveM went to so much trouble to achieve !!!! She advised all of us not to enter into negative threads but to email her straight away so she can deal with it. People that attack anyone like that are really unhappy people suffering in some way that thrive for attention so responding on the thread in one way is playing thier game and they are gratified for the attention. Its really kind of the girls to respond to support . However EveM advised us the minute a negative post appears dont respond, just let her knw immediatly. resist temptation. remember even on this thread ..... just tell eve love jellyDeee....
I agree that this forum should be a positive place for all women (and men) to feel as safe and comfortable as possible.
That said, I am a strong proponent of free speech, and feel that if someone out there wishes to express an opinion that may be the opposite of the majority’s thinking, it should be allowed, as long as it is expressed in a well respected manner. Plain old bitching and jealousy needs to be left back in the eighth grade where is belongs.
Concerning the photos in question, there is no doubt that several people have expressed unease over them. If members post photographs that arouse suspicion, I think people should be allowed to speak up (politely, mind you). Nobody deserves to be deceived, or made out to be a fool. We should also be aware that many new members will check out pictures of old members and try to follow the program plan of the member they like best. If individuals are posting up photo-shopped, or false pictures, then in essence, their program plans did not work, and possibly, will not work for others as well. That means time, money, and energy spent and gone to waste; not to mention the mental anguish for any new member. That is a large concern for me, and should be for others as well.
Re: PHOTOS - Damned if you do and damned if you don't
December 8 2006, 11:25 AM
Jelly ~ glad you were able to notify Eve M. When I saw the post yesterday, I went back to previous posts to find out how to notify her but couldn't find the post I was thinking of and then ran out of time, and figured someone else would be able to get to her.
I have to agree with freedom of speech, but what we have had lately isn't that, and I am glad they were removed.
If anyone can let me know how to notify Eve M. of messages, I would appreciate it.
