So...I have been dating my boyfriend for quite some time, but his ex girlfriend is still in the picture. She talks to me a lot and I don't have hte heart to be mean to her. But the thing that bothers me a lot is that my boyfriend dated her while i knew him and he wouldnt date me. I know its really silly. But the hardest thing is that she has naturally HUGE boobs. I have practically none, and she shoves it in my face all the time. Just looking for any encouragement. Thank you!

Do you want to feel better about having small boobs or do you need help with enhancing them??

Why the hell are you considerate to her, if she's not to you?! Demand some respect for yourself. Anyway, if you want to do NBE, read this forum, starting at the respurces page, there is a lot to learn.

obviously he's already been with her and he chose u. its not about boobs. next time she throws it in your face just agree, and tell her that u r glad he has outgrown his 'shallow phase' and he found someone who he is happy with. inside and out. and maybe she'll stop. why do u put up with her? there is no way i would even talk to her. much less me amicable about it. just my opinion. hope all works out well 4 u.

When you say huge, do you mean huugge?? Huge boobs are horrible! If he was really into massive boobs then he'd still be with her, right? And he's chosen to be with you over her, because it seems he could still be with her if he wanted to, because she's still hanging around? You've got him and she hasn't, be happy! Lu x x

I must admit, I am a bit curious as to why you interact with her in the first place?

I agree with the other girls, since she is still in the picture and he is still with you, then you must be doing something right. And she is probably just jealous and is using an area that she knows you are most vulnerable in to get to you. Show her you aren't going to stoop to her level, and be proud of who you are. You might also want to tell your bf, that its kinda uncomfortable with her around, because it is kinda weird, and see if he would be willing to let the friendship go.

Work what you got and be confident in yourself. The confidence alone will bust your attractiveness.

Boobs are not everything, even though we can forget that, since we are all a little boob-obsessed around here, lol! We've got to give guys credit for seeing us as people and not just walking boobs. I'd just try to block her out and be happy with the relationship.

Have a great holiday!

Okay, come on girls. We all know that if we had the boobs we wanted, we'd be showing them off too. Not necessarily flaunting them at every person with see, we'd all be wearing the cute tank tops and nice shirts we'd love to wear. Just because somebody has their preferable bust size naturally and is proud doesn't automatically make them a horrible, unworthy person.

Now, you say that you don't have the heart to be mean to her. Why is this? Because she's nice to you too and you know that she doesn't deserve rudeness, or because she's mean to you and you're afraid to stand up for yourself? If it's the second choice, then the case isn't "not having the heart," it's "not having the courage." Sorry for being blunt but it's true.

You need to explain the situation further. All you've said about her is that she "puts her boobs in your face" which I'm inclined to think is your insecurity and paranoia noticing useless things. Why does she still hang around you and your boyfriend? Because she's his friend or because she wants him back? If she's his friend, then DON'T tell him to give up his friendship. You're his girlfriend, but you have absolutely no right to try and tell him who his friends should be. Unless she's seriously trying to interfere with your relationship or if she's disrespecting you, then don't tell him how to run his relationship with her. You can tell him that you personally don't like her or things concerning you, but if it doens't really concern him, I'm 100% sure that he is not going to appreciate you trying to tell him who to be friends with.

The reason this post got on my nerves is because I went through a similar situation, except that I was the evil ex-girlfriend. I broke with my boyfriend, but we remained friends, and his new girlfriend who was heavier than me always complained to him that I purposely flaunted around in skirts or tight pants to make her feel bad. In reality, I wore the skirts and tight pants (which were jeans--not sexy leather pants or anything) because I like skirts and hate loose pants. She wents around saying that I'm conceited (which I'm not--considering I'm trying to grow boobs secretly for Christ's sake) and a jerk and all sorts of untrue things. She told him to stop talking to me and he broke up with her. Serves her right.

You know, sometimes people who are unsatisfied with their bodies go around discrediting the characters of people who have confidence for no reason other than jealousy, resentment, or insecurity. We tend to think that just because we're the underdogs, those who look the way they like are all conceited jerks, when it could actually be the opposite.

You need to clear up what the problem is.

i do agree with boobies06... she may be flaunting them, she may not be. now, if she is saying things like "boy, he sure did love my HUGE BOOBIES. i wonder what he sees in you..." then

1) she is deliberately being cruel and
2) you need to start extracting yourself from situations where you are both present

i was in a similar situation... kindof... with my now husband. he cheated on me with a girl with some huge knockers. they werent huge huge, but they were huge compared to what i had... plus i saw something that he wrote to her along the lines of "not that i mind staring at your huge boobs all day..." WHILE i was with him. so yeah, that made me a bit insecure because i knew that he was pretty well into boobs and i didnt have a firm grasp on the situation. i told him to ditch her, the friendship he had with her, everything. he did... though my situation was different in that he wasnt over her. yours, on the other hand, seems to be, which as others have said means a great deal. it means he appreciates more than just a huge set of jugs (im trying to see how many words for breasts i can come up with in one story).

now as for how to deal with her: if she is being DELIBERATELY mean, and assess this situation as impartially as you can, then you need to talk to both her and then, if she is still being cruel, to your boyfriend as he is clearly his friend and not yours. i dont care who it is, if my husbands friends are jerks to me first i say something to them and tell them to quit it and then i say something to him. he may not get rid of them, but it makes him aware... some guys are dense (no offense, twinklepose!) and you have to spell it out when someone is being a jerk.

and then for how to deal with YOU: if you want to start some nbe, start at the newbies page and work your way around the forum. but keep this in mind: the boobs dont keep the man, they just make YOU happier. you need to do it for you and not for him or you wont get any growth (its a mental thing...). its about YOUR self-confidence and YOUR happiness, because guys will come and go... but the boobies are here to stay!

hugs to you...

aw thats a pretty upsetting situation. can you distance urself from her? i get the feeling she is jealous of you cus ur with him, guys dont really like bitchyness so don't slag her off to him and ull look better. dont let her destroy ur confidence, hes with you because he likes you and she is not part of ur relationship. try ur best not to get involved with his ex tho, because ex's can be very nasty people xxx

"because ex's can be very nasty people"

I hate it when people make ignorant comments.

No offense, but seriously. It's kind of like you saying that you like chocolate and then me coming in and saying, "People who like chocolate are stupid!"

Calm down,

Elle was just making a comment about ex's, she did not mean to say that all ex's are nasty, but some ex girlfiends can cause problems in a new relationship, I think we have all suffered that one, I have and its a pain in your life when you are trying to get to know some-one and the ex keeps hanging on.
As for the chocolates lets enjoy plenty for christmas.
have a happy one..

Oops. Sorry if that sounded mean. Just reread my comments.

Thank you so much for all the response!
Well to clarify the situation:
They dated for 2 years, she cheated on him with 6 different guys and broke his heart. I knew him almost the entire time they dated and we worked together. He liked me but always hoped that she would change. So I suppose part of it stems from my insecurities about the past. When he finally got tired of putting up with her lying and cheating on him, he decided to start talking to me more. After they broke up we started spending time together and dating. She had been talking to him quite a bit and wasn't ready to let go and I confronted her. She admitted that she had slept around etc. and I thought that would be that. Well then she started to contact me more, and I believe this was her way of trying to get back to him. She has never done anything directly to ME, more that she hurt him. This is the reason why I cant be a total bitch to her, but I know I should be.
She does deliberately say things to me, like talking about their relationship, their sex life, and her boobs. I think she has about D's or DD's but she is only 18. I am petite and I have maybe A cup boobs. She wil say things to me in a snide way talking about how big her boobs are, and how much guys love them. The other day she started to talk to me about oh how she wished she could get this sweatshirt but her boobs were just TOOOO big.
The whole situation is unhealthy, and I am just trying to figure out the best way to separate myself from it all. My boyfriend is definitely NOT friends with her in the least bit. (Especially after she tried to hook up with his best friend!)
I have been insecure about my chest size since before she came into the picture, but having her talk about them all the time doesn't help!!

If I were you, I would try to cease contact with this girl altogether. She's not your friend, she's not your boyfriend's friend, so why even bother talking to her? If she was kinder, than one could have her as an acquaintance, but since she's not, I do not see the purpose of having such a toxic person in your life. Don't call her, e-mail her, SMS her, or have anything to do with her. She should quickly get the message that she is no longer welcomed in your life, and will go away.

Oh I have tried that! I tried to not talk to her at all and blow her off but she didn't get the point at all. My boyfriend got very frustrated as well and told her to leave us both alone but that didn't stop her from trying to talk to me. I try to ignore her when she talks to me and I definitely don't go out of my way to talk to her at all. I am trying to be civil, but mostly it is just affecting my self confidence because she has a big chest and I don't. Who knows. Thanks again for all the advice, I really do appreciate it!

In that case, the next time she brings up her breasts, you'll have to interrupt her and explain that you want to keep a little mystery with people, and really don't wish to hear about her breasts. Pretend you're an etiquette snob, and explain it's not polite to discuss such issues with others. Then change the subject to something else.

If she persists with talking about her breasts, it may be time to get "mean" in order for her to keep her mouth shut. For instance, the next time she talks about not being able to find a shirt to fit her big breasts, proclaim with fake sympathy: "Oh, yes, that is a problem for people like you. I guess large breasts mean you'll look fat, what with wearing bigger clothes and all. Poor, dear. Maybe if you taped them down or something..." Or, "Wow, what a shame that you have to deal with big breasts. Not only can't you wear cute clothing, but they'll probably get all saggy and droopy as you'll age. You have my sympathy."

I MOST DEFINTIELY AGREE WITH MOON:) TELL HER SHE HAS ALL OUR SYMPATHY....HAHAHA! I COULDNT HAVE PUT IT BETTER MYSELF MY GOODNESS YOU HAD ME DYING OF LAUGHTER OVER HERE GOSH HOW CRUEL OF ME....NOT!SHE DESERVES IT FOR BEING SUCH A SNOB!MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL!! DONT WORRY HONEY HE OBVIOUSLY CHOSE YOU OVER THOSE JUGGS WHICH MEANS SHES JUST SHALLOW AND THINKS ALL SHE HAS TO OFFER TO THE WORLD ARE HER HUMONGOUS BOOBS OTHERWISE SHE WOULD HAVE SOMETHING MORE MEANINGFUL TO SAY;) DONT SWEAT IT!

Thank you all again! You do make me laugh quite a bit. She tried to talk to me again tonight, and again about her breasts and how terrible it was that she couldn't get the jacket she wanted because they wouldnt fit in it. I said that must be a shame to have that problem, and that I didn't really know because I didnt have that problem and told her I was too busy to talk. You all have given me so much support, and you give eachother so much support. I wish you all the best of luck. Have a great holiday!!!
Best boobie wishes to all!!!
I think we sometimes forget about the beauty we all have inside because of our search for the perfect boobies, but I wanted to let you know that you all are the most beautiful people I have ever been able to meet.

Its sad that girls will use boobs to shove it in other girls faces who don't have boobs. Like they have some sort of power or soemthing because they got something you don't. Puhleeaazzeee. A while back a lot of girls on the board reassured me that you don't need boobs to be sexy or confident, but yes it would help but not solve problems. But don't worry, you'll get them soon enough and when you do she will definatley see what's up.