So for those of you massaging, using herbs, breast enhancement pills etc. Does your significant other, know you're trying NBE? I told my bf, because he knows I have always had a problem with my breast size and he's been very supportive. He doesn't think it's nessecary for me to try anything, but he likes this idea better than breast implants.

oh yer my husband hangs out for the boobs show every night before we go to bed (eg massage lol....) love jellyDeeee..

My husband knows what I am doing, and he is a little bit like Natalia's bf, in that he knows I have hated my breast size ever since I met him (10 years ago) and while he doesn't think I need to do anything to make them better, he is supportive of NBE but didn't want me to have surgery. For years he has been asking what I want for Christmas and birthdays and my standard answer was always "Bigger Boobs". Maybe if this all works, I will have to think of something different for the wish list b4 next birthday (November) and Christmas - lets, see : A mansion, luxury cruise, mega diamonds, and a sexy sports car for starters - Hey, a girl's gotta dream !!!

to donna-dare to dream girl im om ur side!...LOL:)you go girl!!

as for me...no SO...so dont have anyone to share it with...fam and friends would only discourage me so its my little secret for now....well except here of course where i can share everything with the fine ladies of this forum:)thanks to all and best wishes!

i've been with my bf for 2years and no.......if i get results i will, but for now its nada so he doesnt need to know for now...i'd be embarassed lol!

nope. mine is in the dark. if he notices, i might admit it.

Yes my husband definitely knows...and knows how obsessed I am with the whole NBE thing. He totally hates the fenugreek concoction I put on my boobs everyday..for one thing, I smell like maple syrup all the time. :) I told him as long as it helps me grow bigger boobs then I'm gonna keep smearing it on! :) Funny story... I went to the mall right after X-mas to use my gift card from there and I go into Jcpenney looking at clothes and I hear this guy complaining about smelling syrup, then I go to another clothes store 'Rave' and the employees keep saying they smell syrup and even a guy walks in there and time he walks in says 'it smells like syrup in here'...as if that wasn't enough, I go into 'body shop' and yet again they're complaining about smelling syrup, I was so embarassed and kept hoping noone would know it was me. I was even laughing with my mom about it after telling her what happened and she said 'well at least they weren't complaining and saying 'something smells like ****!':) I told her I guess I could say I'm wearing a new perfume either called 'Time for Breakfast' or 'Maplely Delicious' :)Then, my husband comes home a couple of days later from the gym and says people were telling him he smelled like syrup!! So now he's having me wash his clothes separately from mine.

Breast blessings everyone!!

yeah my boyfriend knows. he's like natalia and donna's guys though. he likes mine the way they are and thinks they look great but he's supportive and reminds me to massage and everything. he definately thinks theyve grown and always gives me a little self esteem boost when i complain about them so thats great. he wants me to do what makes me feel better about myself. but hes honest enough to admit that he wouldnt mind if they were a little bigger! haha

My boyfriend that i have been with for 2 years doesn't mind me trying the NBE diet (except i haven't yet gotten in all my NBE stuff in the maiL) but i have tried other things such as massaging with progesterone creme on my boobs which he has helped me do and taking different boob pills which none of them have worked for me... He thinks I am weird for wanting bigger boobs because he thinks they are fine how they are now but for me personally a 32A is not fine me. I at least want to be a 32B and if I am lucky and my grandma genes kick in and help the growth a 32C

Well, I don't have anyone significant at the moment, and when I find him, he will just think I was born with those huge boobs I'm gonna have, so he may never know!

Michelle, that story is really funny, I bet you wanted to just die!! I think I will save that stuff until the end of my routine, along with the CF soup. I am in meetings all the time, and I could not handle it if everyone figured out I was the syrup smell. Oh, and please watch your ****ing mouth! :) --Sissy

Thanks for the laugh...I laughed my ****ing A** off!:) OOOPS! there I go again, better go grab the soap and wash out this filthy mouth! :)

Yeah and if you're in meetings all day then you definitely don't want to do the fenugreek and have everyone smellin you thinking of pancakes all day long :) It's funny cause even though noone was actually complaining that it smelled awful..I felt like the guilty culprit that just let out a big, raunchy smelly one or something! :) And it keep being complained about so much that I felt like saying "Well go have some D**n pancakes then and shut up! :)

lol...that's funny you are talking about eating pancakes...when I first started all of this all I ever wanted to eat was waffles...and I did eat them! I think that it smells really good! I never smell like that in public though because I only massage them in the morning before I take a shower or at night before I go to bed, so it all gets washed off in the morning...

As for if my significant other knows...of course he does...He's been here since the beginning, the day I was researching some breast enhancement pills and was going to buy some bloussant off of ebay...stupid me I didn't know any better...then I started searching real testimonials and found this whole community...he helped out a lot, remminding me to take my pills, wrapping saran wrap around me...things like that...it's kind of been a group effort...sometimes he even helped massage, or claimed to be doing that, although his technique was all off ;)

I have not told my wife that I am trying to grow small feminine breasts (my dream would be to have the same chest as the women in the "before" photos who have AA breasts - I envy them, not the women with the A, B or C cups, because A, B or C cup breasts would show). In part I have not told her because I have just started and have great doubts that it will work at all, and there is no point in raising a subject needlessly. So far she has not noticed my pills because I am always buying pills and herbs of one kind or another. Nor has she noticed my fenugreek spray because I use it discreetly.

Dear ladies - support group, advisers - if your husband/boyfriend was going to tell you that he wanted to grow small feminine breasts with more sensitive nipples, or that he had been trying to do this, how would you react? How and when should he tell you? Or would you rather not know?

I am thinking not to say anything unless I get some growth. But then I will have to say something, and what do I say? One easy way out would be to say that I am taking fenugreek, saw palmetto, etc. for prostate health - they are supposed to be good for this as well! - and to tell her that they sometimes have the side effet of breast growth. This would be the truth, but not the whole truth. Would you rather hear this from your husband/boyfriend, or the whole truth?

As hard as this subject is to discuss for you women, to be honest, my hands are quaking as I type this and my heart is pounding.

its supposed to be a big surprise (i hope by then, anyway!)

then again, he only notices things when they punch him square in the face, usually... i could probably be a 36FFF by the next time i see him and he would ask me if i had gotten a haircut...

your mom DOES have a point, michelle, though she needs to stop hanging around with people with such potty mouths (you know, people like me... your mom live near a military base, per chance?)

Many questions-This is a hard one I supose it all depends on your cercumstances-
1.Your reason for doing it
2.has it ever been somthing you have spoken about in the past or recent past with your wife n how she reacted then
3.how long you have been married
and as you know here the most,how would she react if she found out accidently-would she be angry you didnt tell her or freak out as she wouldnt understand why.

If it was me i would react badly more to do with not telling me,although if it was somthing mentioned previosly i wouldn't feel decieved if you know what i mean but im not her & wouldnt want to influence what u decide-its your marrige after all.
This must be a toughy for u.

Any way regardless i hope u do achieve the results u want
Happy growing

as a woman, let me tell you that you dont want to just surprise her with something like that, particularly if she starts doing the research herself with any other supplements and sees you have been doing it on purpose. you dont want to be caught in a lie... it breaks trust for a long time...

i dont know how i would react... im not really attracted to that sort of thing personally, so i dont know how i would feel if it was what my husband wanted. it would take some talking. not like i would leave him for it... if the relationship is THAT unstable, there are probably other issues going on.

i think you should talk to her about it. gently... good luck!!!

As per original post-YES he knows (he'd struggle not knowing he plays poker i sit massaging boobies n ask him to refresh forum in the back ground) Hes the same about implants,i dont think it would bother him i had them but he's watched the opps with me and he just doesnt like how the docs treat u-he doesnt want me to be in pain.
I think he finds it funny how much i go on the forum and talk to him about massage and herbs,
He does object to the boobie batter-he hates the smell of fennel and hates the smell of wonder up every time i open my hand bag-n he did chuck a bra across the room n said do u know how bad this smells Yuck
But over all im very proud of how he is about it i feel really lucky.

my bfriend knows, we looked at some tablets together once a while ago and then he was at home when my wonderup pills arrived and he asked me if they are the herbs for bigger boobs. i thought of not telling him and making it a surprise if my boobs got bigger but he would probably find out anyway cause we live together and i keep herbs on the shelf in the kitchen. i haven't had much measurable growth (only about half inch but i dunno how correct my measurement is) but he says that he can notice a big difference already, and he's that kind of guy who usually doesn't notice anything like if i cut 3 inches of my hair or wear something new (emmie sounds like our guys are realted or it's just some guy's gene)

this is a difficult one, personally i would prefer if my guy talked to me about it because if i accidentally found out that he's been trying to grwo boobs without telling me i would freak out
if he told me about it...it would probably take me some time to get used to the idea but i wouldn't leave him because of it (unless his boobs would get bigger than mine, just kidding), i wouldn't mind him wearing a bra now and than as long as he wouldn't pay more attentio to his boobs than to mine

this must be hard for you, but you know your wife best and you must know how open your relationship is and what whe thinks about those things

oh yeah and did i mention that my bfriend has one boob (natural), it's still smaller than mine so i don't mind ;-)

My husband knows and has been very sweet and understanding. He told me he loves me already the way I am now, but I think he is somewhat entertained by my escapeds (ex. smelling like syrup- you are hilarious Michelle Choi!, looking at BE boobie pictures, massaging etc.) He even offers to help me massage and I am lazy so I take him up on it. I think it is more exciting being able to share this with him.
In the begining I was afraid to tell him, but I am very glad I did. And he assures me that he will keep loving me even if I don't get results. He worries more about me being disapointed.

If you want an honest answer, I would freak out if he told me he wanted breasts. I would think he had sexual issues and it would scare me. Please don't be offended, what I have read on this board is that the men here wanting boobs are not gay, so I am learning that it's not always the issue.

I think you should talk to her about it, maybe approach her like you said about taking the herbs for male health, and see if she freaks out over the possible side effects. Then you will know.

Maybe this is TMI, but my girlfriend went and had a brazillian wax without telling her husband, totally bare. She was so excited, but her husband (not an emotional person at all) cried he was so upset. Said it made him feel like he was with a little girl and he had a real problem with it. My point is that you should find out how she feels before you alter your body in a way that might make her feel uncomfortable.

Just because what you are trying to do, is not something that I would find attractive in man, does not mean that I don't support you. It's your body and I hope you get the results that you are looking for. Good luck whatever you decide to tell her. --Sissy

If it were me, I would want my husband to be honest with me and not hide it, because the hiding, sneaking around, talking on forums about it with other people and not including me his wife, and best friend would upset me or hurt me more than actually sitting down with me and discussing what he was trying to accomplish for his own happiness. I would hope he would feel comfortable enough to share it with me and not hide it, even though it would probably take some time for me to try and understand why he was doing it. I guess, I'm also speaking from experience about lies, and sneaking around...my husband has done his share of that a few years back that destroyed my trust and has been slowly building back the past few years...so if he lied or kept something else away from me yet again...that would really destroy what little bit of trust I've rebuilt upon. So that's one thing to also take into consideration...has she ever felt betrayed in some way by you in the past for other things, that this would only add fuel to the fire if you kept secret?? And if you didn't tell her something like this and she found out anyways..would it really destroy her because you didn't share this with her, instead of just being honest from the get-go?? Either way I know it's a hard decision, because you really don't know what reaction you would get either way, but for the sake of 'trust' in your marriage, I say honesty would probably be the better route, even though it's not the easiest. :) Good luck to you though in your decision and hope it works out for you and hope you accomplish your goal. Take care.

well.. to be perfectly honest - i find the idea of a man trying to grow breasts fascinating and i wouldnt be freaked out. i might even enjoy it. but im a bit of an odd duck and i wouldnt go by my word :P i think that most women would probably be freaked out. you should try to bring it up casually like the other girls suggested but you might want to seriously consider whats more important to you - boobs or your lady. because you just might have to choose. so just.. think about which one is worth more to you. hopefully she'll support you. but its understandably very hard for most women to accept. so .. just be careful. i hope it works out for you

Yes, now he does but not at first. I didn't tell him because I wanted to surprise him. But after my initial growth, I got so excited that I showed him. He knew before I actually started that I was considering trying it or surgery. In fact he got me my first consultation with the surgeon, because he has done work for him before, and knew he was the best in the area, and was so tired of hearing me cry about my size. So he said if it was that big of an issue to me, he would be happy to pay for it in full. That said, he tells me all the time that if they never get bigger he will still love me as much as he loved me before I started this adventure, and finds me attractive anyway. He has never complained about their size, ever, and has never made, at least that I know of, any joke or anything about the size of them. He is very supportive and so far hasn't mentioned anything about the "new perfume" I seem to be wearing ~ its called Maply Syrup!!! He won't massage for me though, but doesn't mind watching!!

To ManyQuestions ~ the honest truth, if it were me I would freak out. Partly becuase I personally am not into that, and partly becaue I don't like change. It sounds stupid, but I fall apart everytime my husband comes home with a new tattoo, especially since I don't really know about it until he gets home!!! I like him the way he is, and I don't like change. My husband had a back injury a few months back and had to stop lifting, so now he has a cross between pecs and man boobs, and it doesn't bother me, but I do know I would feel very uncomfortable if he were actually trying to grow boobs as opposed to nature just taking over. My advice would be: be honest with her. I'd rather my husband be upfront with alot of the things that we have worked through in the past, then me finding out on my own. I feel betrayed when excluded, but thats me.

After reading the unanimity of responses to my question, and thinking it over, I decided to tell my wife. But I decided to do it in stages rather than bluntly.

First I told her that I was starting to take various herbs for prostate health. My wife - a scientist - asked whether any of them had ever been proven effective in double blind studies. I told her I doubted it, that the reports were anecdotal, but they were highly touted on many web sites devoted to herbs, and that because they has no bad health effects, I had nothing to lose. She then spoke for a long time about how unreliable anecdotes and testimonials are, how manufacturers make up stuff and put it on web sites to sell more product, etc. I tried to argue and then told her that I would show here some of the information on saw palmetto, that it seemed pretty credible to me. I found a lot of material from herb-oriented web sites, while she want to MedLine - which surveys the scientific journals. We came back with almost exactly the same information! Scientifically controlled double blind studies, etc.

Then, I told her that many women were taking these exact same herbs to increase breast size, and again she said that there was no proof of breast enlargement, that charlatans made up stuff to sell products, etc. I countered that I had once believed that, but that the BE forum was not selling herbs, and if all of those postings on the BE Forum were made up, and all of the 40+ before and after photos on the BE website were photoshopped, then someone must employ several people full time just to do the fake postings. She countered that the women doing the postings probably are deluding themselves, believing what they want to believe, that breasts are very difficult to measure accurately and consistently, that if a woman gains weight their breast size would be affected, etc.

I asked her to look at the photos on the BE website and then added that the herbs might have the same effect on me, and if it did, I thought it would be really cool. She paused and then just replied that there was a difference between fantasy and reality. She did not check out the BE Forum.

The next day we were both getting dressed, and I put my hands on her C cup breasts, and she put her hands on my flat breasts. I jokingly asked, "have the herbs made my breasts as large as yours yet" and she answered "not yet". Then she started to rub my nipples and I jokingly asked whether my nipples were now as large as hers, and she did not reply, she just went on to other things. She did not mention it again. That was yesterday. I will bring it up again in a few days.

So I have told her, and she does not take it very seriously. To tell the truth, I too am skeptical that it will work. But at least it should improve my prostate! And, if I gain a little something up there, I do think that it would be rally cool

good for you that you told her... though does she know that you actually WANT your boobs to grow a little? she seems very scientific... i know a lot of people like her... dont get pessimistic because that can hinder you!

good luck to you!!

I told her I thought it would be "really cool" if my breasts and nipples grew, and then there was a distinct pause in our conversation. A couple of seconds of silence. She definitely heard and understood me.

well done,i bet u were really worried what to say but even though the whole truth hasnt been said at least you have managed to broach the subject,do u feel better in yourself now? uv just got a few steps to go now.

Good for you ManyQuestions. I must say though that I'm rather annoyed by people with menality like your wife, who discharge NBE because nothing has been proven, when they do it without getting any information either. This kind of mentality is to blame that many women never learn about the alternative to implants and either expose themselves to surgery which can harm them or they later regret, or they remain misterable about of their breast size forever. The pictures on this forum speak for themselves and saying that all those women are deluding themselves is uninformed, prejudiced and sooner a delusion itself.

Perhaps because my wife is a scientist she discounts anecdotes and only trusts scientifically rigorous studies. I am the same way, and especially apply it to fields like BE where there are a lot of rip-offs going on.

I have read that to do a modern, scientific, double blind study of a pharmaceutical costs more than $100,000,000. Just think what would be involved for a study of the effectiveness of BE products! It could be done, but would sure not be easy to do.

So, do we wait for 5 or 20 years for a perfect study? Or do we take a chance, buy products with few bad side effects, and hope?

Anyway, I feel much better that I broached the subject with her. After reading the consensus of views on this thread that I should do so, all I can say is that I am really glad that I did. Thank you, all, for your advice. And I will bring it up again just to be sure that she knows I am serious about it.

In retrospect the only thing holding me back was my own skepticism that it will work for me. I don't doubt that some treatment would work for me, but I am not sure that I will have the resolve to stick with it long enough to find out which treatment will work. I have read many messages on this Forum about women whose quest failed, at least for a while, and admire them greatly for continuing to persevere.
I hope that I have as much fortitude.

for dunny, i think? :)

thanks diana!