Last year on the fourth of july, we had a big get togethe with a bunch of hubby's family around the lake. while we were there i only word a bikini top. there is a huge difference between last year and now. i foot want all the questions or stupid shallow comments. ugh. how do i handle that now? has anyone thought how they are going to overcome this? any opinions will be most welcome. thanks.

Hi!

Oh wow, you think that they'll actually laugh at you? How horrible if they do! If they do, it's nothing to worry about because you have every reason to be proud of your body, and anyone who tries to embarrass you by making jokes just wants attention for themselves and might even be jealous. Sometimes people don't realise that their jokes are hurtful, so it's good to let people know if something they say bothers you. Sometimes they'll be surprised that they came across so badly! It will probably be a form of flattery, believe it or not, because having bigger breasts isn't considered a bad thing!

So, if they make remarks, etc. just feel good about yourself and smile. If you overhear anyone saying anything that bothers you, be brave, see them for what they are (immature, etc). If the comments are mean spirited, then they aren't worth your care at all. If anyone asks you what you did, or you hear 'implant' type remarks, say something like, "No, I improved my health and my body responded well."

I wouldn't worry about what anyone says, but then that's me. You have nothing to be ashamed of and no one can make you feel ashamed unless you let them. Be proud of your late "growth spurt" and let your pride show. You don't owe anyone an explanation for anything.

Well, in my opinion, I don't feel that is it polite to comment on a woman's breast size, good or bad, even if those comments come from family members. I would think that in private, or between friends it would be different, but not in a group! Hence, I would assume that people would keep their mouths shut, even if they noticed.

However, if anyone dares to comment about your newly acquired growth, you could try using humor, such as, "Santa brought me an unexpected present this year," or lie and say that you've gained a little weight, and your chest took the brunt of it. If not, you could always try my favourite passive-aggressive retort: "I beg your pardon? I must have misunderstood you, because you wouldn't be as rude as to say something like *that*." This usually lets people know that they've crossed the line- big time- and are looking bad in front of the group.

Hi Diana, you could just say it is a very pleasant side effect from Vitex which balances hormones and leave it at that. They would be none the wiser. If any nasty comments are made,it would most likely be from jealousy anyway and that's their problem, not yours. I say "shake what ya brava gave ya baby"!!!

I agree that you don't owe anyone an explanation or anything at all. Just be happy that you have bigger breasts! :)

Lillea

Diana,
First of all, you don't have to wear a bikini top.

Second, think about it - in your heart of hearts, wouldn't you be really pissed if after going through what you have gone through to achieve your results, NOBODY noticed??? lol

Third, nobody is going to 'laugh'. The guys will all be secretly checking out your cleavage and the gals will be choked up with envy.

Fourth, shine on you crazy diamond, shine on. You look great. Hold your head up and smile.

waxingmoon

Diana, every woman who acieves to grow breasts naturally should be damned pround of it!! We all know it isn't easy, it takes a lot of research and dedication, some have more luck than others, but it takes conscious work for everyone. Don't be embarassed at all, you know that you haven't had a boob job so you should dismiss any sort of remark in that dirrection assetively. Then it depends on how comfortable you are with telling about NBE. If someone makes a comment on you size, you can just say they are right with confidence and refuse to reveal how it happened. Good luck!

I got a couple of good ideas from you guys. the only reason i say that is cause if (big if cause its not her family)and somebody comments on their size i dont want her opening her big mouth and telling everyone. she loves being the center of attention. and she's one of those natural d's that love to flaunt it. you should have seen what she wore to MY wedding. she still wanted to get the attention.how can you win with people like that? p.s. hubby knows and always takes my side, but no change.

well, if the family hasn't seen you in a while, you could just say it happened so gradually that you didn't notice that there was a difference!!
otherwise I wouldn't worry about it. Honestly you don't have anything to prove, or be ashamed of. I would personally avoid answering, and just give them a confused look, like you have no idea what they are talking about.

Tell them never to underestimate the power of prayer. They'll all be running to church on Sunday!

Besides that... It's you who should be laughing!!!

oh goodness...lol. Tell them you're a late bloomer! :-) In the end I think the most important thing is that you are just as natural as Ms. D. It's obvious you didn't have a boob job so let them wonder about the mysteries of nature....

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Oh it will be obvious that i haven't had anything unnatural done to my body. she didnt have to bother herself by babysitting her grandchildren. meanwhile she had a tummy tuck after my first daughter was born. my stomache right after still looked better than hers. and i didnt have to pay 7 grand. all she needed was exercise. and her daughter is the same way. people that take the easy way out. its so ugly. it really shouldn't bother me as much.but his family is all i have here. oh well.thanks guys

if some girl with huge knockers came up to me and said "oooh. have they grown?" i would say "sure they have. everyones do sooner or later, right? some people even too much..." and then wander off...

but then again, i have a bit of a nasty streak, so when someone tries to put me down, they are usually asking for it...

look forward to it... youre not growing them to keep them under bulky sweaters all summer, are you??

Its like ten degrees outside and i an wearing a wife beater. (A white 'a' shirt) so imagine what i wear in summer. lol