I know that this is way off the topic guys, but as you have probably seen all over the news about the incident with rihanna and chris brown on him hitting her badly and breaking her jaw ect, the two Hot young couples at the moment ends in abuse. Well it got me thinking today and thought to myself I should post this on here. I Think that this is a great forum where many ladies come here to read up on not only about breast but ways to improve ourselves on the outward our appearances.

The reason im bringiing this up is cause I once was in a abusive relationship with a guy who wanted me to dress a sertin way, look a sertin way and get implants glad I didnt now though and my mom also was a victim of abuse and actually had got implants done for her ex husband who abused her. She has had the orginal silcone implants done which now she regrets ever having done if only she had known the health risk involved, but got them to please him and in return their not even together anymore and she has to live with them everyday now being sick from the leakage inside her body.

Now I would say that this forum in some ways can relate to men because we are out there trying our hardest to look our best for our men, some women would even do anything to please her guy so by bringing this up spreading the word I believe we all have to come together and realize that looking great is fine wanting to change somethen about ourselves is also fine, but to do it for a guy is a whole other story.

So with that said weather getting implants or NBE meathod make sure your doing this for you and not to please anyone else, because in the end what if you never got the results you wanted, what if you had got implants for your man and you hate them, he hates them then your stuck with them for life and then your still unhappy.

Some women may not realzie this because I know I didnt untill I had to go to counsling for a year after the abuse I went through but emotional abuse is actually conidered worse then fiscal abuse.

SO if your with a guy that tells you need to change this about yourself that you need bigger breast a bigger butt, or what ever it may be and if you don't change the way you look hes gonna go find someone else or leave you then thats considered emotional abuse and he does'nt truly love you, so you need to get out of the type of relationship fast.

I guess my whole point im trying to make is do this for yourself ladies not to please anyone else but yourself, but first love yourself the way you are except what GOD has given you then from their it makes it not as stressfull when enhancing ourselves and our bodys.

Any advice anyone would like to give any other ladies out their as well, or what your opions are on the whole rihanna and chris brown story, how did it make you feel? and would you forgive him or stay with him after somethen like that after he hits you or emotionaly abuses you?

Then ask yourself also who are you trying to please right now your man or yourself? Then ask yourself do you except who you are and what GOD has gave you?

If you answered that your doing this for you and no one else and that you except who you are as of now, then you are on the right track to being successful in anything that you do.

Applude yourself ladies for being your own woman and independent

sorry if this was a bit long of a post But I hope this encourages some out there that your not alone ladies and if you have a man in your life that treats you badly you can find some else better who will except you for who you are and love you the way you are now. remember also that your not alone their will always be people out there to support you know matter what. I found me a good guy after 3 bad ones and I know if I can you can too.=)

By now, most of us have seen a picture of what happened to Rihanna and it's a shame that this could have been prevented since there have been reports from both close friends & family members that the two have had a history of abuse/violence. Even more shameful that Chris' own mother is a survivor of domestic violence.

Where did you hear or read that Chris broke Rihanna's jaw? I don't recall seeing that in the police reports. In no way am I condoning intimate partner violence, but let's allow the law to bring facts to the issue instead of relying on the media who are notorious for twisting and making up info. Chris Brown will get his day in court and receive due punishment.

What upsets me is that millions of women and children (and to a smaller extent, men) are abused worldwide on a daily basis, yet people become outraged when it happens between 2 celebrities. Where is the anger for those nameless and faceless who must endure physical & psychological torture every day? Where is their justice? It's sickening that people turn a blind eye to cultures where intimate partner violence is acceptable or the norm.

Just for the record, some, if not most, of us are doing NBE for our own personal gains, not for some dude.

First of all, your spelling errors concern me.

Second of all, he did not break her jaw.

But you're right. It's very concerning that women actually stay after being told to change (in vain, superficial ways, that is) and threatened to be left if they don't.

He ended their relationship when he hit her.He also ended his career when she dialed 911 ! YOU GO GIRL !!!!! He is bigger than her, but she is BADDER than him !!!!

SoCal.grl
Im not saying I know for sure what all happened Im only saying what I heard on a MTV show docermentry that had stated She had a broken jaw from police reports its not confermed yet I guess.

As far as NBE goes im not saying everyone is here doing this for some guy I'am only saying that anyone who might be considering breast implants NOT NBE to think about it before doing it, or anything else for that matter to make sure your doing this for yourself and not to please someone else. If that came out wrong and offeneded anyone then Im sorry I was very tired when I wrote this post so it may have came out wrong in some sense.

sandre!
I do applude you for recognizing my gramer however I'am already aware of this its somethen I've had trouble with some time now, but what can you expect from a girl whos been abused her whole life and grown up in abusive home.

I never been to school because my dad never allowed it and I had to be homeschool by my mother who was to sick to teach me anything so I had to teach myself along the way as I grew up I've never got to go to college because as soon as I turned 18 I left home to get away from my father and left with a guy who ended up abusing me down the line; Its been bad relationship one after another for me but I don't have any other family besides my mother and father who I chose not to live with because of how my dad is.

I never did have freinds growing up because I never got the chance to make any from not getting to go to school so I chose to go live with my Bf at the time out of my home town state. I left everything behind just to escape my father It was a bad decision at the time but I had no where else to go live, so now I've missed out on so much in my life growing up and feel stupid most of the time because of not ever getting any education growing up.

All I can say is im shocked im even still alive today after everything I've been through their was many times I thought about committing suicide, but don't worry after accepting God in my life I feel so much happier then I've ever been in my life.

I'm sorry to hear that, but you should know it's never too late for you to learn! Remember, knowledge is power. And also, you should not let your past define who you are today. I hope you have learned from your past relationships and hardships and have enough self-respect now to know when to leave. Well wishes to you.

Do not make any excuses for yourself! That's not to say that abuse isn't serious. I only say this because it seems as though you let it determine who you are now. You have to move on and motivate yourself to change the things you can. This way, you can be happy because of YOU and not some religion or boyfriend or any other force.

Not to mention all the people that are currently in an abuse relationship who are a fan or Rihanna.. let's hope she knows better to move on for her own good, and for the rest to get the courage to do the same.

I know I"m late, just saw her picture in the newspapers two days ago, it's outrageous that the precinct would release such photo, I would be furious if that were me :-S

Cat.....first let me say that having the courage to get out of an abusive relationship(whether your father or a boyfriend) is very courageous! It takes alot of will and determination to do this. Despite the fact that you say your education is limited in book form, you have life education and that is also very important. Abuse is very hard to overcome, emotional more that physical, and to be able to do this shows how strong you really are.

Chris Brown should not be allowed back in her life, however he can be forgiven IF he seeks help. I had not heard that his mother was in a abusive relationship, however if this is true than his abuse makes sense.....this is what he saw in his life and so this is what he learned. No it does NOT make it right in any form what so ever. However, children live what they learn! IF his mother was in an abusive relationship,he learned to abuse, that woman are less and need to be controlled by any means, that it's ok to relieve anger with phsyical means. I am not making excuses for him, there is NO excuse for abuse. But it is known that children who are either abused or witness constant abuse will likely grow to be abusers OR be in abusive relationships. These people need to be educated and helped. Abusers can stop the cycle with the right help.

Just my thoughts, for what they are worth!!!!
Laisegirl

I of course agree with everything you said Cat, for me it's very obvious, and I think all this should be obvious. But unfortunately nowdays this is not obvious, but sadly the opposite often is - women being desperate to please their men, going into extremes for it. We've become tolerant of attitudes like that, implants today are sth normal, usual. But if you just step back and think about them you relaize just how extreme they really are - cuting your chest open and stuffing two TOXIC things into it, things which almost certainly will cause you health problems in the future, possibly severe health problems.

Sorry for being blunt but I think any woman who would have breast implants for a guy is not in her right mind. And any guy who would demand a woman to get breast implants is a wortless selfish sick twisted bastard. I'm sorry for women suffering abuse, but at the same time it annys me cause often they're letting it happen. I know there's complex psychological background, usually they've lived in abusive families and watch their mothers being abused. But I think that letting yourself be abused is no less wrong than abusing someone else. And the worst thing is the excuse ''staying because of the children'', when in reality by letting a child watch abuse one very likely directly condemns the child to the same fate because of the psychological conscequences.