Okay hello Eve I just joined your site but I noticed my comments being erased.May I ask why that occurred?Please come to me and ask about the situation instead of putting into action b/c it could all of been a misunderstanding.I came here to help people and get help but if I am going to be disrespected then I don't need to be here.
Thanks.
"Okay hello Eve I just joined your site but I noticed my comments being erased.May I ask why that occurred?Please come to me and ask about the situation instead of putting into action b/c it could all of been a misunderstanding"
There is no misunderstanding. So far 4 of your messages have been deleted for having abusive content, which is against the terms and conditions of the forum (being abusive in Spanish makes no difference to this).
No there wasn't a technical glitch. I deleted 4 comments from one poster for abuse and then deleted 1 and edited 1 from another poster, also for abuse. I've also deleted 2 further posts by the second poster for posting messages under 2 different names.
Okay let me ask you another question.How come the comments I wrote before the spanish rage that were only about my pcos and how I am not a spam (without abusive words) deleted?Also why did you not delete or correct Socal for harassment?
Thank you so much for your time, it is such a relief to have some of those nasty comments disappear. Most of us come here to share information and to support each other, and it's nice to see that action is being done to keep this forum both informative AND supportive. Yay, we have our awesome forum back! =D
Snowflake also called me a bitch and made culturally charged offensive comments about me drinking tequila b/c of my ethnicity which is abusive, racist and very bigoted so those should be deleted also.
"How come the comments I wrote before the spanish rage that were only about my pcos and how I am not a spam (without abusive words) deleted?Also why did you not delete or correct Socal for harassment?"
I don't know, I have no recollection of seeing that post.
Ok, there were some posts here from MariahD as well, she was quite adamant that her friend's comments were altered or not posted as well - thought there could be some other explanation.
MariahD's posts are no longer here, so not sure what became of that matter.
Totally understand the need to edit abusive comments.
"Ok, there were some posts here from MariahD as well, she was quite adamant that her friend's comments were altered or not posted as well"
Regarding MariahD / MariahD's friend -
A long standing and valued member here answered 5 questions a few days ago and MariahD / MariahD's friend took exception to 2 of the answers and responded in an abusive way. In my judgement the answers given by the member concerned were no different to many other answers she's been giving for some time and I didn't accept the argument that she was rude or sarcastic. I thought she was being helpful, especially as the 2 questions had been around for some time and nobody else had answered them. Accordingly, the 2 aggressive posts accusing her of wrongdoing were regarded as simply abusive and one was deleted and the other one edited. Then in this thread 2 further posts were made, again making unwarranted accusations against the member concerned. As there is no evidence to support the continued claim that the member concerned was being rude or sarcastic, these 2 posts were also removed. Unfortunately when someone tries to help someone else it's sometimes the case that no gratitude is forthcoming and in fact quite the contrary you can easily find yourself being attacked because someone took something the wrong way, as seems to have happened here. Finally, let me say that if MariahD / MariahD's friend had a problem with the answers given, it could easily have been queried in a reasonable way, rather than by posting abusive messages.
One of "SallyAnne's" post were answering a question someone had asked about feeling pains. Obviously someone who has never done NBE before does not know what to expect. SallyAnnes answer was : "Its a good thing, Im suprised you would even ask" That does not sound encouraging to me it sounds like shes saying the person asked a dumb question and I don't think it was helpful.
The question my friend asked was about Fenugreek Tea and BO, and her answer again was: "Estrogenic activity doesnt stop being estrogenic if its in a tea" I found that to be sarcastic like the other post she answered. If she didnt want to answer them or thought that they were stupid questions then she should not have answered them. I do not think that either one of her responses were helpful. My friend said that she was not going to come back here because of that. I had told her to come on here because everyone was helpful and nice. SallyAnne just proved me wrong. Eve if you dont think those are sarcastic then I don't know what is.
In my opinion sarcasm is not abuse. Eve will defend us from abuse, but God help her if she ever tried to defend us from sarcasm because then she would never get any rest and the forum would consist of about 3 posts... lol.
(ooops, she would have to delete this post as well... lol)
I never said that they were abusive comments. I said they were rude, not helpful, and sarcastic. Don't bother posting if your going to give someone these responses. It will deter people from coming back here.
MariahsD - Regardless of whether you think you or your frind have been treated unfairly by some memebers, stopping coming here is your loss, not anyone elses. This is probably the best source of NBE info on the internet. We here help others on our good will, it's not our obligation. We don't gain anything from doing it, nothing is being sold on this forum. The forum is unaffected by your presence or absence here. By coming to any interent forum you accept the reposability of being able to cope with whatever other people say. If you can't, then you are free to leave for your own sake. But it would be in your intreset to rather learn to cope with it.
This message has been edited by -Moon- on Mar 4, 2009 6:30 PM This message has been edited by -Moon- on Mar 4, 2009 6:21 PM This message has been edited by -Moon- on Mar 4, 2009 4:18 PM
"Its a good thing, Im suprised you would even ask"
"Estrogenic activity doesnt stop being estrogenic if its in a tea"
I do not find these answers sarcastic at all. Not even annoyed; which any member could reasonably be, considering it shows the asker didn't bother to use the search function.
I have to say I find it exagerrated to the point of arrogant that someone would make such a complaint.
Oh, I misread. Oops! Well then, my appologies for that, just ignore that part, I'm going to edit it. Althoguh, I do seem to remember reading the same thing from you in another topic, where you also said you were going start your own NBE forum... But I can't find it anymore, it must have been the posts that got deleated. Oh well it's not like you'd admit it anyways.
But the rest of my post is still valid, and I'm going to state my opinion whether you like it or not, that's how forums work, and that was my point before. I didn't say you couldn't complain, obviously no one can stop you, I described the nature of your complaint.
And let me assure you that I'm a person very secure about myself, that's precisely why I always give my two cents (and no hormones blaimg, that's my personality), and that I'm in the process of getting education as a doctor of medicine. Seriously, if you wanna inslut someone, you have to at least say sth that makes sense, otherwise it just makes you look silly.
Again, it's too bad that you're leaving, for you, it's your loss. But if you feel that's best for you, good luck.
Edit: I see MariahsD's post got deleted. Oh well. And gee, that almost makes me a spammer, having triple posted lol!
This message has been edited by -Moon- on Mar 4, 2009 6:27 PM This message has been edited by -Moon- on Mar 4, 2009 6:20 PM
Hi Eve,
this is my first ever post. I have been reading this forum for over two years and love it, i check out the site even during the day at work. It's been really informative and interesting. However i have to agree with a couple of the messages on this post that i have thought that some responses now again by members have been a tad sarcastic, so not necessary.
At 47 and two adult children i still have issues with my boobs and find solace that i'm not the only one with the hang ups that we all endure because were not happy with them. So i look forward coming onto this site and hang out for a good read and pick up tips.
So girls there is enough crap going on in the world, if we can't say anything nice to each other then best say nothing at all.
Take care x
