Hi everyone, i am really down at the moment, my NBE is going fantastic. But i am male and someone has found out what i am doing, and it has all gone abit bad for me today. So i was just looking for some advice on what to do, should i tell people now what i am doing before this other person does. Any help would be lovely. Thank you. x

We girls do this for ourselves, it should be no different for you. :)

FengShui is right, people always want to talk about things that are new to them, and im sure if you just go "whatever, im happy" they will lose interest as it becomes a dull topic, only problem is that there are always negative people out there who feel better about themselves by putting others down. your happy with how you look, so screw what anyone else thinks. id feel proud, i bet they wished they felt as good as you do right now, its like high school..they tease because they are jealous, have nothing better to do, or are afraid to do something because of how people will treat them. stand proud and remember, in the end all that matters is doing what makes you happy, not wishing that you would have done it and not having any time too.

i hope you feel better and dont let people get you too down, jerks are often more insecure than the ones theyre teasing <3

Thank you both for your fast replys, i am not normaly like this but i have become very emotional over the last 4 weeks and i am very upset at the moment, i know what i am doing will seem strange to alot of people but for me its something i must do. It is not a fantasy or a sexual thing for me, i just want to be happy with my body and feel complete if that makes any sense. I just dont know how to deal with people finding out what i am doing or what to say to them. But thank you so much for your replys i am very grateful. x

ooh, if your very emotional the estrogens are definitely working :) seems like your plan is doing wonders for you! feeling complete is something i think all of us understand completely. having a larger chest just isnt for vanity, its to feel "more womanly" and content with our bodies. if something bugs you about your body and it doesnt change, that will become a block in your life that will get rid of the joy of alot of things..for instance, i hate wearing bathing suits. its not because i look bad in them, its because im unhappy with my breasts and seeing women every day with amazing ones drag me down.

were family here, and we gotta support each other as much as possible, regardless of sex. also, in my opinion, instead of rushing to tell people, id let them come to you, that way youll have a more one on one way of telling people. thats just my opinion though, you should go about it however youd like, its your body and your life :)

Thanks Buta, that makes so much sense, and yes i am having some great results with my NBE im so happy with how that is going, i am getting alot of other effects though other than breast development, but i knew this could happen and i kind of like it. But i will face up to this when i have too with people. I am doing this for myself and there is no way i am going to stop now. Thank you so much Buta. x

Anytime, support is always given when needed :)

like the others said, You're doing this for you and nobody else, hence it's no one's business. You can worship zeus and grow a horn on your back, it's no one's business but your own. So keep growing those boobs and don't pay attention to any negativity and if anyone has the audacity to ask you such personal question, you're not obligated to respond.

Hey CONGRATULATIONS on having NBE working,
and hmm.....feeling emotional and having mood swings after 4 weeks, hmmm.....i think we can all relate to that. i feel emotional and have mood swings every 4 weeks too. LOL!

If your attitude is, "well I know what i am doing, i know why I am doing it. I don't find it necessary to advertise it to the world, but I don't find it necessary to hide it either. If you know about it, whatever. If you make fun of me, it's your own problem being a narrow-minded, judgmental bigot who's not open-minded enough to live in the 20th century, and I am sorry for you. But I am happy that I take responsibility and action for doing what I want and what makes me happy."

Definitely don't go arround telling people now because of fear of what that person will do. This way you'd reveal your fear, you'd let people know you depend on their opinion and they'd perceive it as a weakness and think even worse of you and use it against you. But if you act cool like you don't give a s*hit about what anyone thinks, they will have an enirely differnt impression, you'll come across strong and independent. I think the best reaction when someone makes a snide comment is to act a bit surprised and smile, but make it only a slight and short reaction, that looks like ''huuh, do you really think I give a crap about you think, whatever lol''. It's much more about the attitude, then anything else about you or what you do.

I agree with Moon.

Absolutely no reason whatsoever why you should share your choices with other people.

At the end of the day, I would be suspicious of anyone who finds your life and what you're doing with it more interesting than their own life and what they're doing!

So what what other people think (tho the sad truth is, female hormones often make this a theoretical rather than actual position!)

Thank you all so much, you are so lovely. And i agree with what you all have said. I have told my best friend today who is male, i have knowne him since i was 4 years old and wanted him to hear it from me, he is the only person i will tell. My best female friend already knows as i told her last week. My male friend laughed at me and then joked and then seemed very angry with me, after a long argument he told me he cant take it seriously but he will always be my friend and it was upto me what i did, he also asked to look at what results id already got but i couldent show him it felt wrong. He laughed and said wait till your drunk. I found this funny and that he had excepted it in his own way, i then for the first time in my life wanted to hug a man and i mean really hug and have a cry as i was very weepy. This felt strange for me. But overall the two people who mean the most to me friend wise have excepted what i am doing in there own way and i couldent ask for more. Everyone else can say what they wish, i dont care.Again thank you all so much you have helped me alot and finding this forum is one of the best things i have ever done. Good luck to all of you and if i can help in anyway i will always be here. x

I think most straight guys would react pretty badly to a news like this cause they have the male macho ego thing and couldn't for the world understand it. So I think you should be really careful about telling a guy. You're lucky your friend seems to have reacted well, just hopefully it won't change his attitude towards you.

Hi moon, and yes you are right it is not a good idea to tell men about what i am doing, as you say they dont understand because of there macho ways. So as of now i am telling no one. And he is already treating me in a completely different way so i think i may have made a mistake telling him, but i cant change that now. Thank you so much for your help and advice. x

Cheryl,

I think you've been careful enough about who to tell, and you chose to tell a very close friend of yours. In any case it's a true test of friendship so don't think of it as a mistake. If he cares about you as a friend, it won't matter what it is you do with your life, he will continue to be your friend. Just try to not start acting embarrassed and awkward around him as that might make him feel out of place as well, so just be your usual happy self. I for one support your decision and wouldn't think any less of you if I knew you in real life :-)

Thank you Double_ace that was a lovely msg, i know my male friend is having a hard time with this and i can understand that, we have been friends a very long time. He has become very macho with me and to be honest i do feel uncomfortable round him at the moment, i catch him looking at my chest alot in the corner of my eye and he makes sly comments and i feel myself getting a little angry and then upset, i am crying so much at the moment lol. But i am a little concerned that i am looking at men in a different way lately, they are so single minded about certain things and i never realised this before. Thanks again everyone. x

I think you handled this in the perfect way. You let those whom are closest to you know and to H*ll with everyone else. Do not let other people's opinions dictate what you do or don't do. This is your body and I can completely understand your decision to make changes that will make your body feel more natural to you. What other people think does not matter. I know that saying this is a lot easier than living it. We live in a society where other people's opinions often matter greatly. However, it seems a screwed up world where it is perfectly acceptable to have plastic placed in your body, but if you want to do something that feels natural to you in a natural way something is wrong with you. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOUR DECISIONS OR YOU! I think you are very courageous and you should stand firm in your resolve until you have the body you feel comfortable in. I think you should discuss your feelings with you should discuss your feelings with your male friend and let him know that he is making you uncomfortable. He may not realize what he is doing. Trying to play devils advocate: maybe he is trying to make light of the subject, so you will feel more comfortable about it? Talk to him.

Hi Laura, and a big thankyou. The support i have recieved off this forum has taken my breath away to be honest you are all such lovely people and have gave me great strength over the last 3 months i have been on here. I will talk to me male friend after he has had time to process what i have told him. I can understand what a shock this must be for him, he asked me today if i would still be able to play tennis with him, this made me realise that he thinks he is loosing his best friend just as much as i feared loosing him, i just have to convince him that im the same person if any thing i will be alot happier and content. I feel really good about myself as my NBE is working so well and im not sure if its the oestrogens causing this but my perspective on alot of things has changed and i feel alot calmer and at ease with everything, im in a good place. Apart from putting on nearly 16 pounds lol. So a big thankyou to you Laura and everyone on here, im proud to call you all family lol. Thank you. X

and were proud to call you family as well cheryl :)

Hi everyone, and thank you Buta that means alot to me. Just a quick update on the events of the last few days. I went out today for a few drinks, i recieved quite alot of abuse from the people in my local bar, but i stood proud and said nothing some people even stuck up for me which was nice. So i faced up to everyone and it was hard but i kept strong, until i got home as i have been crying for the last 20 minutes. But it was my choice to do NBE and ill stick by it. I have also made the decision to not hide my breasts from now on as it would look like i had something to be ashamed off, and im not ashamed of them, so i am not going to hide any longer. My progress with BB is going very well except for my weight gain, which all seems to be going to my bum, hips, and lower tummy i am finding it difficult to fit into my jeans, so i think ill have to buy a larger size and wear a belt, but they may look abit silly lol. Thank you again to all of you. You have gave me alot of strength and i am very grateful. xx

It's good that you stayed strong Cheryl. I know it is hard but I'm proud that you are standing up for yourself. Perhaps others like you will find the courage to do the same one they see that they're not alone either. It takes a hero to put his foot forward where the road hasn't been paved yet so I really commend you for that. Stay strong and know that there are others in this world who are probably going through the same thing you're going through so you are not alone.

Congratulations on staying strong! I admire your strength and commitment, I can't even muster up the courage to tell my friends about NBE, and I know it must be that much harder for you. I truly look up to your confidence. Stay strong and continue with the wonderful progress it sounds like you've made!!

wow cheryl, thats quite a story!! im so glad you stood proud and didnt let them harass you, and good for those who defended you!! and you shouldnt be ashamed, they would be less likely to try and cause an issue if they see that your proud and could give a darn less what anyone else thinks!! you did a good job and i also look up to your courage, my cousin say this page on my laptop and i was sooo embarrassed, i could never do what you just did!

Hi everyone thank you so much. I must admit on the outside i will appear strong and stand tall, but inside i am scared and upset but i have no one to blame for that but myself, i have choosen to do this and i dont regret it and i will take what ever abuse comes my way from single minded people out there. Im hoping with time they will move on and get on with there own lifes and let me be happy with mine. This forum gives me alot of strength and to all you ladies out there doing NBE, dont be embarresed about it, there is nothing wrong with wanting to make yourself happier and more cofident. Breasts are beautiful in all shapes and sizes and no one should feel embarresed or ashamed of them. If i had a magic wand id give you all your perfect boobs, but i dont lol so NBE is our magic wand. Thanks everyone xx

"Nbe is our magic wand" couldnt have said it better myself :)

Cheryl,
You have nothing to blame yourself for. You should be proud that you are doing something that feels natural to you. Other people may not understand, but few do when people do something different to what they expect. Einstein was thrown out of school. The Wright brothers were laughed at. Even Noah caught some slack. Several years ago, a man was dared to get breast implants. He did and then decided he liked them so much he was going to keep them. He went on Oprah and several other talk shows. The public seemed to love to critize him, but Bill Engval said it best when he said that if he had boobs, he would never leave the house because he would be playing with them all day. Just in case you are not from the U.S., Bill Engval is a very famous comedian(Blue Collar Comedy). I am glad that you decided to talk to your friend. It seems like he is having a hard time adjusting and you could help each other to adjust. Remember that this is something new for him as well and use I feel statements. Hope all goes well!!!
Laura

Hi Laura, thank you for your support and advice its been a little overwhelming for me, with all the support people have gave me on here and i am very gratefull to you all. I am alot happier at the moment and i take each day as it comes, me and my male friend have spent alot of time together since i told him and we seem very close at the moment which is nice. Its very different to how we use to be as i know that he doesent see me as he use to before i told him. But i understand this and to be honest i feel very shy and embarresed around him at the moment i dont know why. But all is going very well and i will face any obstacle that a may encounter knowing that i have great support and i am happy with myself. I hope all is going well for you and everyone on here and please stay intouch Laura you have been very nice to me and i wont forget it. Thanks again xx