Hey everyone.A couple of weeks ago I learned I'm gonna be a Grand Parent! Is it a shock? Hell yes,but what am I gonna do? I won't let it stress me.All I can do is accept this,'cause it's gonna happen,and show this child love.At least I will be young enough to enjoy my grandbaby and when I've spoiled it,I can hand it back to mom and dad! HaHa!
Hey,WannaBeeC! Thank you.I am getting so excited.These kids are good kids and I know my son is great with kids because he is an awesome big brother!All kids like him,and he has always shown them kindness.He is actually excited.It's his chance to have a good relationship with his child,as his father was not very involved in his life.He was,but he is not a man that shows emotions very well.Neither was his dad.Now,my husband and my son have a great relationship.He tells people that my husband is actually more like his dad because he was at every ball game,took him fishing,and had those facts of life talks.
I know I am rambling,but this is a total 180 from July of 2008.My son had a problem with pills and actually got treatment.It was so hard because no matter what they do and the problems they have,you love them and want the best.When they hurt,you hurt.On July 4th,2008 Corey overdosed.It was accidental.The kid had no idea that my son had these problems in the past,and he did tell Corey they were one thing and it turned out to be 3 different things,including Oxycontin.These were the majority that he took and with the percocets,his liver shut down.Too much ibuprofen will do this.He was at death's door.They had to actually take it slow with him in the ambulance ride and he was so far out at his girlfriend's.They called the hospital to get authorization to run a breathing tube.They had to literally manually pump it to the correct breathing time.The sherriff's department automatically started investigating the case.They thought for sure he would not make it.
All I know is I was at the hospital 45 minutes before he arrived by ambulance.When we called his girlfriend to see what was taking so long.When she said they were still working on him,I knew it was bad.I work in an occupation where I am med certified and CPR certified,so I knew it was serious.It was too late for them to pump his stomach.He had pnuemonia where he had aspirated in his lungs all night.It was a miracle in itself that he even made it that long.I knew then that God had other plans for him.He was in a coma from the overdose.They shot him with Narvac to try to counterreact the drugs in his system,and he got violent with adrenaline,which they said was actually a good sign,as he was showing signs of life.But,his heart rate starting climbing and they were afraid he would go into cardiac arrest,which,come to find out,is common when the try to revive someone with an overdose.It took 3 to hold him down.They ended up having to give him a shot to paralyze him temporarily to be able to run a breathing tube and a tube of charcoal.They had to pump his stomach because of all the acid on it from aspirating.He slipped into a coma from the overdose.He was transported to an ICU unit.It was time to call on God.My oldest brother is also my pastor.He said stay strong and I know this is hard,but do not let fear come into your heart.That's the devil and don't let him rob Corey of his God-given destiny.
His girlfriend stayed right there with me for a week,ate hospital food,slept on cots in the waiting room right by the elevators.I instantly loved her because a lot of girls at age 18 would not have done that.I knew she loved him.But,there were others up there with their loved ones.We all encouraged one another and formed a bond.Over night,his lungs started clearing.They flushed his liver with fluids.We talked to him and even in coma,tears would roll down his face.My boy was in there and he was fighting.They had to still keep him strapped because he would try to tear out the tubes or swing his legs off the bed.3 days out,he was out of the coma,but they kept him sedated because the breathing machine had to be kept going because his oxygen levels were still too low for him to breathe on his own.1 day later,it came out.The drama was over for us but just starting for him.He hates hospitals,doctors,etc.Needles.He can't stand to even have his blood drawn.So,for him to wake up with tubes down his throat and up his nose and to be in ICU,it was very traumatic for him because he didn't remember anything.Mama Bear had to run the detectives off.I explained I knew they were trying to help,but the most important thing for Corey was to remain calm and rest.They were frustrated because he couldn't remember.I explained to them he had been in a coma and that the sedatives they gave him made him forget and to go ask the doctors and nurse if they didn't believe me.He sayed in ICU for another night.He cried and cried.He cried because he missed the fireworks.I told him yea,but you'll be around next year for more.He cried because he was ashamed.I told him that positive things would come from this and it would make him all the stronger.It has.I knew from my talks with God that Corey's life would turn around and be different.There were so many people that brought food,prayed,and cared.He stayed in step-down for 3 more days then came home.he still had pnuemonia,but was taking antibiotics and breathing treatments and inhalers.We got him some bottle rockets.The doctor told Corey to wait a couple of weeks before getting into our pool.A week later,he got in.He started turning purple and jumped out.I told him he could wait one more week.
I know this would be tough for ANY parent,but when you have a child at 15 and basically grow up together,it was even harder.He had just graduated in May.He had so much more ahead of him.Was I mad? No.When I saw a machine doing the breathing for him,all I saw was my little boy,and he was in trouble.He needed me to fight for him and be brave.With God's help,that's what I did.I could not have had strength without Him.Corey accepted God then.He knew he had been touched by His hands.
He was a little nervous when he learned that his girlfriend was pregnant,but I told them if you can make it through what happened last year,you can damn sure make it through this.The agreed.So,for Corey to make it through that and then be here to make me a grand parent,I'm cool with that and I am truly blessed.Sorry I rambled,just felt like putting it out there.
Hi Mel C, and congratulations on being a grandparent, and like you say its always nice that you can hand the little one back to there mom and dad when things get abit messy lol. xx
MelC...first let me say that your story brought tears and chills! Yea, Corey is destine to make it. I beleive that everything happens for a reason, and we may understand that reason and maybe we never will, but there is a reason. That reason is GOD's reason......
Congrats on the grandbaby! I found out 3 days before Christmas that i am gonna be a grandma. And when the doctor told my daughter and I that the test was positive, we both shed a tear, both in joy and fear. But her doctor talked to her for a while that day and told her that it won't be easy but that ANY baby is a blessing, no matter how they get here! It was at that moment I KNEW my babygirl will be ok. And the relationship with the father is rocky and she moved home but that's ok cuz Momma will take of her and my granddaughter if he won't! And my daughter WILL finish college so she won't have to depend onhim!!!
Ok no im running off at the mouth, I just wanted to say realy that I am so happy your story turned out so well and that you now have two new lives( your son's and you grandchilds) to celebrate! I celebrate withyou!
Laisegirl
Laisegirl-----thank you so much for your kind words.Congrats to you on your grandbaby! Your daughter is over half-way there.Yes,your daughter has to finish college.I know it will seem hard to her at first,but as we know,it actually gets harder after time goes by.I am actually going back to school after the first of the year.It's not college,but it is what I've always wanted to do.That's my only regret-----if I knew then what I know now......I wouldn't have put my schooling on the backburner,but life is still a journey and I will go back after the first of the year(only then because I absolutely have to pay 3 bills off before my hubby can handle the rest).I'll go back about the time my little grandbaby comes along.
You are so right when you said you would take care of your daughter and grandbaby if her man doesn't.....that's what we mothers do.No matter what they do,no matter how bad they think they have messed up,they are still our kids,and we will be there for them.And you are definitely right about their life situations......they are God's destiny.
Again,congrats to you and I wish you all the very best.Please keep me posted......I mean that.We have this in common,as well as NBE.Hope that's going great,too.Cheers to us!
~~~ Thanks to all that have responded to me.The support has been just incredible and uplifting!~~~
