okay, so i'm sure this isn't something any one here wants to hear...but i really need someone to vent to...my boyfriend gave me his laptop to borrow while he is away for 2 weeks along with all his DVD's
and what did i find??? a burn't copy of girls gone wild- best breasts ever.... I am so crushed all i want to do is cry.....obviously my boyfriend is a big boob kinda guy otherwise he wouldn't have this DVD...i can't believe i actually believed him when he said i was beautiful.
in all other ways he's a total sweet heart, but i am so hurt i can hardly breath.
what do i do? my breasts won't grow, NBE won't work for me. i wish i was someone else.
This message has been edited by Cselestyna on Oct 14, 2009 9:45 AM
the good news is that he probably does think you are beautiful...big boobs are not the only thing that make a girl beautiful...look at the victorias secret model miranda kerr...she aint no double D ..and whatever she does have is enhanced greatly by their amazing push up bras...
and remember one rule of thumb..."big boobs dont count if you're fat, or have an ass face!"...
Moving on, I have a strong opinion about Porn of any kind. And the fact that he does have it and its about girls with big boobs surely shows he is immature. I know alot of other will disagree with me on here, but guys dont NEED porn. I dont know why so many people begin to think that they do. I mean, if I were watching some naked guy on my tv and watching him for the sole purpose of getting off, Id feel like I were cheating on my bf , just because I am in fact looking at that other person like a piece of meat.
there really IS true love out there, and it doesnt involve porn.
What did guys do back in the day when there was no porn?? if they had no respect for their woman, they'd go out and cheat. IF they were in love, NO such thing would ever happen!
My point is, he has porn, and yeah maybe youd expect that from a teenage guy who hasnt had much sexual experience and still exploring, but from a guy who has a beautiful girlfriend and is grown and "mature"?? come on...what is this a joke or something??
If I were you, Id DEF confront him about it...if he has a problem with it...forget him..and I mean it...only because giving up something like that is so small to ask when you love someone!!!
when you love someone,, it doesnt matter what it is,, if something you do bothers them...STOP..thats IT! no questions about it. If you or your partner cant do it..then you probably dont really love each other...
thats all.
good luck honey!..and tell him that if he wants big boobs to go and get them...if he wants a HOT ass girl..tell him he's gonna have to work for your attention!
1) If it's a burned dvd, it may not even be something he sought out. I've had friends give me burned copies of things I wasn't terribly interested in and never watched, but I accepted them in the spirit in which they were given. :-P
2) What I've heard from most guys (unless they have a major big boob fetish) is that they might have fantasies about this or that, but nothing is as good as the real girl they have. And most guys are just so happy to see boobs at all, they don't give much thought to the size. Most are Equal Opportunity when it comes to boobs IRL.
3) If giant boobs were tremendously important to him, he probably wouldn't be dating you in the first place (I don't know you, but we're all here for the same reason. :-D ) I'm sure he loves you just like you are, and that doing NBE is more important to you than to him.
4) I do think I'd ask him about it, though. He needs to know you're uncomfortable with that sort of thing, and that it makes you feel insecure in your own body.
guys need visual stimulation to masturbate. they can't get off easily without it.....
when girls masturbate they tend to revolve around sexual fantasy and put themselves in passive situations... kind of like in a romance novel?... to get sexually stimulated.
and both of these things are human nature and you shouldn't be torn about it.
my fiance looks at porn from time to time... and i fantasize about leonardo dicaprio from time to time. and there isn't any reason for either of us to be hurt about it.
i'd say more than anything, you're showing personal insecurity. your bf obviously likes you a lot, and thinks youre beautiful, or he wouldn't be with you... and that's that.
Im sorry to hear about your fiance but I hope that both of you realize one day that porn is not okay...theres absolutley no reason for it....thats like going to the strip club with your husband so he can get aroused by watching other girls naked...and then go home and have sex with you after the strippers got him aroused...why cant he watch you naked??..lol its so disrepectful and i dunno how some women think its ok....
if you need other things to get yourselves aroused by each other then your probably not atrracted to your bf/gf as much as you thought..i know i wanna jump on my bf whenever i see him!
and what are you talkng about passive fantasies?? im a girl and i dont think that fantasizing myself with some guy is gonna get me off...i too need visual stimulation, aint no romance novels here!...thats when i get my bf..
simple as that.
if i were you id leave a porno with naked guys on your dresser and magazines of naked men all around..then ask your boyfriend if he'll go with you to the guy strip club, cuz he has nothing to worry about you just wanna look at other naked guys...and then tell him why you wanna look at them. lol he'd probably feel like sh*t.
Way to go, Aerie. So well said. I feel EXACTLY the same way you do. Guys DO NOT need porn, and there are acutally decent, respectable men out there who avoid it and instead focus on the lady in their life. My husband and I have been married for more than 5 yrs now and he has always been faithful to me in every way. He adores me the way i am and thinks I'm beautiful even though i've always been VERY flat chested and now even more than ever since my pregnancies. But he LOVES me anyway.
Don't settle for less than that when you don't have to. Wait for that true man to come around!
okay, so as it turns out it actually was his landlords who had lent it to my boyfriend because it had six other non sexual videos on it my guy wanted to watch.....
however i am glad i raised this topic.....when i thought my guy was a big-boob fetish kinda guy it hurt, i wanted to change to please but stay the same to rebell...i find it interesting that when i thought my guy may want me to change ( he doesn't, i know this now) it crushed me...but ME wanting to change for myself actually feels great because it is for ME and not for someone else.
as long as my guy is happy with me the way i am, i am happy because i can explore NBE privately just to please myself, any other way seems to cheapen this experience.
Thanks everyone for agreeing with me. Im glad to know there are other women out there who respect themselves and know what true love is. I know I now know what true love is after finding the greatest guy ever! Yes he is.. Haha
And to may,
that's good and all. But he still shouldn't have that video. Hehe I mean six other non sexual videos? I didn't know there was such a thing on girls gone wild wonder what kind of non sexual videos they can be. And what he talks to his landlord about to have his landlord lend him that video.
But it sounds like you got what you wanted to know. Hope everything works out!
Thanks everyone for agreeing with me. Im glad to know there are other women out there who respect themselves and know what true love is. I know I now know what true love is after finding the greatest guy ever! Yes he is.. Haha
And to may,
that's good and all. But he still shouldn't have that video. Hehe I mean six other non sexual videos? I didn't know there was such a thing on girls gone wild wonder what kind of non sexual videos they can be. And what he talks to his landlord about to have his landlord lend him that video.
But it sounds like you got what you wanted to know. Hope everything works out!
