I finally got my period today, and am supposed to have started taking my birth control pills.

Well, now I don't want to.

I feel like my relationship is fricking over. My boyfriend hasn't called in 3 weeks... I've had to call him. Each time, he's said, "I guess I'll call you tomorrow/later/soon" and he's never called. I am in a long distance relationship, and won't be able to see him face-to-face until December.

The worst thing of all is that last week I had the worst pot-related experience of my life. I have no idea what that was, but people are telling me it was laced with angel dust or something. It was truly devastating. I don't even do drugs. I just tried it, and that's what happened.

I called my bf that night to tell him I wasn't feeling well, and he just ****ing laughed at how "funny" my speech was because it was all slurred. Am I really dating a 29 yr old? Or is he fifteen? I am just disgusted. He said he'd call again to see how I was feeling the next day. Never did. I called him last night to finally ask him why he's been ignoring me, and he said that he thought I might have been busy each weekend, so he didn't call. Busy??? Why would I be busy? I'm stuck in my dorm doing nothing every week. He's always known that. Man, what a crock of ****!

To cap everything off, my mother heard him (and his own mother) bad-mouthing me. They were doing it right in front of my mom. My mom was shocked so she said nothing to them. I called to ask my bf about that, and he said, "how would I know your mother was offended when she didn't say anything?" Well, maybe because you were saying things like how insecure I can be, and spewing about it for 15 minutes.

Man, he really backpedaled on all of that. Then he told me he "had to go," and that he'd call me this morning about it. I haven't recieved any calls this whole day. What a surprise.

**** birth control. As if I really want to lose my virginity to some negligant *******.

Wow... I'm in a long distance relationship as well, so I know how valuable the phone calls and conversations are. You don't deserve to be treated like that. Everyone is insecure about SOMETHING, we arent perfect and have those ideas and dreams of fixing those imperfections. You are here for bigger breasts, and if you didn't have ANY issues with the size, shape, or form of your breast, you wouldn't be here and being so dedicated, but as your boyfriend, he shouldnt pick on you or put you down about what you are insecure about. Instead, he should be there to help lift you up and be an encouragement. If you are only taking birth control so that your relationship could become sexual, then I think that is a bad decision. If you are worried and stressed about how your relationship is turning out, then you should not bring sex into the equation, it will only complicate things more and you might regret losing your virginity that way in the end. Honestly, if you have waited past the age of 18 and made it beyond peer pressure and temptation for this long, then the one who you lose your virginity to should be worth it. Don't take the risk of messing up your body and your cycle for sex with someone who doesn't even take the time to show you he cares about your well being...

Sorry you are put into this position and sorry if you think I'm preaching at you lol, but I just wanted to give you my take on it. I know being in a long distance relationship could be hard at times, and I'm counting down until December as well. I think you deserve better though. Besides, stress isn't good for your body, or your NBE journey. So calm down, keep your confidence up, we all have our insecurities so don't let them tear you down. If he loses you, I bet he'll regret putting you through this stress and if he sees you after you reach your NBE goal, he'll really regret not appreciating you and for even putting you down in the first place. Its bette to be with someone who accepts you now, just as you are, and who will be there for you.

The decision is ultimately yours, and maybe things will work out within your relationship, and I hope they do. Good luck to you, and don't let it get you bent out of shape.

~~Lyn

Sailorvenus44....i am so sorry to hear about your relationship. Long distance relationship are very hard and it takes 2 mature individuals to make it work. Age is not the factory...maturity is. And is sounds as if he doesn't have that.

DO NOT CALL HIM AGAIN!!!!! Girl ifhe is not calling you, don't give him the satisfaction of feeling as if you NEED him. If you con't to call him, he will con't to NOT call you and will con't to to do what he wants cuz he knows he can get away with it. My ex husband of 14 yrs, cheated on me a few times, would just go out drinking with his buddies whenever he wanted etc. About 2 yrs after we divorced we were talking(we are now VERY good friends)and he made the most profound statement to me..." I did what I knew I could get away with". He didn't say that to be mean or to place blame. He is VERY sorry for everything he did to me and regrets it all. He said it as a matter of fact. And he's right. I LET him get away with it. I wanted our marriage to work so bad that even tho' i threatened ****, i never backed it up(until the end..and let me tell you he was shocked when he knew he had screwed up for the last time, there was NO comin' back) He knew he could keep doing those things to me and I would do nothing but try to make things better. He felt he had me "by the balls" so to speak. But he screwed up one too many times and that was it for me. Yea I missed him and loved him with all my heart. But I finally realized that i deserved better. And being alone was alot better than being treated like ****. If was very difficult for me, we had been together since i was 17, hewas the only man i knew. At 31i completely started over. while raising 2 kids. But I am so much better off. Yes I still love him, and at times I miss him, but have no desireto go back. I have him as a very close friend and that is important to me.

DO NOT CALL HIM! Make him call you. Make him miss you. Andif he doesn't than you know his true feelings and you are better off not to have him in your life. And don't let him get away with his not calling and push off attitude towards you if he does call. Make him explain himself. Make him work for it. Because if you let him come back easily, he will do it again...no doubt about it.

SOunds to me like you are young(early 20s)....you have plenty of time to find a good one. And they are out there....in the mean time....just go out and have fun. Be yourself, be true to yourself. Guys mature in the important ways the older they get. He is 29 and may not be ready for a relationship, or maybe just can't handle the distance. If he is not calling, and giving you the push off hen you call him, he's probably got something going on, if you know what i mean. I coudl be wrong, but if he doesn't already have something going on than he is porbably looking I am sure this has already crossed yor mind.

Again I am sorry you are goin thru this, it's never easy. Just be strong and stick up for yourself and DO NOT PUT UP WITH ANY ****!!!!!

If you need to chat, I am here
laisegirl

I have never posted on this forum before, but when I came across ur post, I HAD to reply.

Sweetheart, your boyfriend hasn't called in 3 weeks and you "think" ur relationship is over? It sounds like you don't see your worth, therefore neither does he. When it comes to men, you are usually worth about as much as you think you are. Haven't you ever seen the no-so-hot girl who gets lots of guys? Why? Because she is comfortable with herself. Haven't you seen the gorgeous girl who is dumped n treated badly time after time? Why? Because she lacks confidence in herself.

You must KNOW you deserve better than that! Your mother did not go through pregnancy and labor pains for you to SETTLE for a lame relationship with an a**hole! Please, please embrace the awesomeness that is you!!!! If and when you do, you will be amazed at how amazing people who appreciate you will come into your life!!!

God bless your life!

very simple. Until you chase him ..he will keep running away. ( this is law)
STOP. ......... ( calling him or taking his calls) get preoccupied with other things and he will stop running. Actually your intent should not even be to have him call you etc.
Just get busy with other things.
Get successful and rich.
Let go and let god.

I know your going through a difficult time here but i honestly think this forum is not best place for these type situation since this forum is specifically for NBE. I dont think you should posting relationship problem on here.

I dont see anything wrong with her posting here. Personally, I joined because of the personal stories and the support I saw here. I think it is great to be able to get help and advice from others who stand fairly on the same side of the fence. Although we all are going through different things in life, we are all here fro NBE.

Not only that, but this does relate to NBE.

Her results could change when she introduces these other factors to her NBE journey.
For example:
Stress
Birth Control
& Hormone changes that could result from sex


It is nice that she has someone to look to for advice, and if we don't have any, we just wouldn't respond.

You just need to let this relationship go. The last relationship I was in was horrible and I let it go on too far. You need to find someone else who makes you feel like you have value.

You will find another guy!!! I never thought it woudl happen to me after I was dummped by my husband. I was pregnant and he wanted to go to LA and be an actor. Well, nine years later he is a big star, and I am super happy to be with another who won't leave me. You think it won't happen again- that you will find love but it does:)

princesslyn is correct. We are here for NBE however, we are here also to support each other in many ways. And if someonehas a problem, they should feel comfortable putting it on here either to get advice or just to vent. If someone feels lost they should have a place to go, and this is a great place!!!!

laisegirl

eff him