Great list!! My list looks a lot the same. I don't want my man covered in tattoos but he has to NOT turn his nose up at mine. I only have one but it's very pretty and tasteful (and on my ankle so I can cover it up, if I need to).
Don't give up! There has to be someone out there just looking for a GOOD woman, you just haven't found him yet. RIGHT KIM?!
Monica
This is your life. Are you who you want to be? ~ Switchfoot
I work weekends and need like two years notice to take one off i swear. but i have always wanted to meet with you. maybe we can make solid plans for a few months down the road when there isnt any school. and then i take the time off.
and about a man....i just realized that other than the physical aspects, i described my dog lol
<and about a man....i just realized that other than the physical aspects, i described my dog lol>
ROFL!! Outside of "steady job" - that's my dog, too! Plus, she's cute as can be so I'll give her that in lieu of a good job. She never complains. She LOVES company and men with facial hair (how weird is that?) and playing ball.
Sometimes I can't remember why I even NEED a man!
Monica
This is your life. Are you who you want to be? ~ Switchfoot
Be ok with yourself Kid. You know how many people here who know you and think you are just fine. Love begins at home in your heart and it begins wiht yourself. Perhaps you need reminding from some of us here just how fine you are. But you shouldn't. Take if from yourself. Begin by thinking of the things that you do that you admire and feel good about. You know, those other people (ie the rest of the world) are really all nasty superficial and will let you down ... joking..really. But first you will find you like yourself and then you can start working out.. and I believe you will find that you will become more connected and your life will blossom and grow. We all care for each other here you know. And one of the big messages we get told is to care for ourselves. BS and WS all have to work at this. I care for you and I don't ask for anything in return. It is just good to care. .... And (dark humour coming here).. you know, all men are the same and none of them can be trusted .. This is something my WS wife used to say.. She has not said it since d-day.. There are good folks as well as bad out there.
I like who I am and if they don't they can go fly a really big kite. I have met one shallow person after another in the past 4 years. I am by no means saying I am not good enough, I am saying they aren't interested in me. There is nothing I wish to change because of that - just stating a fact. I won't change for anybody so until I find somebody who accepts me the way I am so be it. It just is a lonely road to go it alone and 4 years is a long time to spend by yourself when you want to have children and are in your sexual prime.
I figured to stay out of this thread since my first reaction reading Peanut's list was "sorry Sean's taken"! lol (Right down to the liking heavy metal and tattoos!)
Looking back now I think maybe a small part of why I stayed with Jason as long as I did was that fear of "who would want me now?". I'd heard for so long what a piece of crap I was and was still hearing it from him. I would be a 30-something single mom with 3 kids, with serious mental and emotional issues, and not exactly a looker anymore. Eventually I hit the point of alone was better than the situation I was in, and got out.
Kid has the right mindset. Don't settle for less than what you deserve...ever! Don't change for someone just to be with someone, but always be willing to compromise for the sake of mutual happiness.
Yes, I got very lucky and found someone. But honestly I think that has as much to do with the area I live in as anything else. Major metro areas have their advantages sometimes! The more people around, the more options you have. So don't beat yourself (or the world) up if you don't happen to live in an area with lots of folks.
You'll find the right person when/if the time is right. Even if you don't you're fantastic people no matter what!
I only have one but it's very pretty and tasteful (and on my ankle so I can cover it up, if I need to).
