Well, it has been an interesting year. I marked that dreaded anniversary (the one where I was assaulted) without really giving much thought to it, until that evening. I spent the day with my two boys (my daughter was spending the day at my mom's) and we enjoyed a movie "Homeward Bound". I didn't even think about the time that I was assaulted, which is something my counselor said might happen, until that evening. Amazing.

I am busy as ever. Anyone with children knows what I mean. LOL I am still without a job but we're surviving. This past two years have taught me how to survive. I can say that I'm success---my children are happy, healthy and thriving this past year in school. Their grades were all excellent and none of them had anything lower than a B this past quarter. My youngest son received the Presidential Academic Award for straight A's this past year, my oldest son received recognition for all A's and B's this past year and my daughter got her first straight A report card this past quarter. My autistic son pulled his grades up to all B's, so that is a feat. He has gotten A's before, but he let a few grades slip and had to play catchup.

My autistic son competes next weekend in the Special Olympics here in Columbus and I'm looking forward to his competition. He has garnered several first place medals and second place medals in his three events. I'm very proud of how well he has excelled.

As I told Tinx, I am not really on here much anymore. I don't deal with the affair daily, like most members do, and therefore don't feel like I have much to contribute, especially since there are rarely any new WS that show up. So, even if you don't see me much, I will lurk from time to time.

I do think of all of you frequently and hope that you are coping and living well. I know that this is a brutal event to recover from and I ache when I read some of the posts. I just hope that you all know that there is healing in the end---be it as a couple or single.

Life may throw lemons at you, but I say turn them into a pie.

DH

DH,

You are a special Lady! I wish your son well in the special olympics!

so nice to read good stuff!!!!

(((hugs)))

Pat

"Time is precious, but truth is more precious than time."

I should add that my greatest achievement is that I have gone down from 150m of Zoloft to only 50m!!! I am working on getting off Zoloft completely. My doctor is very pleased about my progress. I would have to say that this is my greatest success. Getting over my depression.

DH

Hi DH!

I'm happy to hear your life is moving forward - haven't been able to get online regularly of late, and I missed
reading your posts. I'm mostly still stuck in neutral, though, like you, I don't think about the affair nearly as much as I used
to. There still are moments when I'm hard pressed to keep it all together.

The house is about to go away. What surprises me the most is I'm ready to be rid of it. Too many bad memories
and emotional abuse all tied up in this place. A fresh start somewhere new is what I believe I need - I'd venture that
the new home you're in has helped all of you move forward. Your son's achievements are certainly worthy of the pride
you've expressed - Go get 'em!

Please feel free to drop me a line if the spirit so moves you. DH, your encouragement has helped me more than I can
adequately express. Thank You from the bottom of my heart.

TC

Glad for both of you. DH you and your children have achieved so much!!!!

TP hang in there and I think you will find a fresh start will make a huge world of difference. Alot of memories I used to think about constantly because I was in the house and they were there as daily reminders, don't even enter my mind. I hope the same for you.

I'm happy to hear your life is moving forward - haven't been able to get online regularly of late, and I missed
reading your posts. I'm mostly still stuck in neutral, though, like you, I don't think about the affair nearly as much as I used
to. There still are moments when I'm hard pressed to keep it all together.

***Sorry that things haven't always worked out for you of late, TC. I know that feeling. You want to move forward but someone has tied your feet down and you are struggling. I'm glad that you have times where you don't think of the affair and can be "normal", if there is anything such as that post-affair.

The house is about to go away. What surprises me the most is I'm ready to be rid of it. Too many bad memories
and emotional abuse all tied up in this place. A fresh start somewhere new is what I believe I need - I'd venture that
the new home you're in has helped all of you move forward. Your son's achievements are certainly worthy of the pride
you've expressed - Go get 'em!

***I found that, though I was sad because of moving out of the house my young children had ever known, I felt relief, liberation, and a sense of freedom, something I'd never felt before. You will have your days where the memories make you sad, but you WILL remember those good times too. And you guessed correctly that moving to a new place gave me a new sense of accomplishment. I've never lived on my own, going from my parents' house to my ex-husband, so this is the first time I have had to be responsible for rent, utilities, food, etc. Though the stress of making ends meet is hard, it gives me something to hold onto (hope this makes sense).


Please feel free to drop me a line if the spirit so moves you. DH, your encouragement has helped me more than I can
adequately express. Thank You from the bottom of my heart.

***I'm blushing right now, because I don't feel like my story--affair and aftermath--is all that extraordinary. I made a MAJOR mistake that I wished I could undo, but I can't, so I have to change and move on. I'm glad that you are encouraged, I feel that the one thing in life we are called to do is be loving, compassionate and understanding of our fellow mankind. I can be cynical when I see the terrible things that people can do to others, but I try to find GOOD things in life as well, and meeting the members of HH (though the circumstances suck) have been a blessing to me. I gain wisdom and knowledge from the life experiences of the ones who post.

I hope that your health is strong, I know you were having some troubles with your medication. I hope that that has straightened out and that you are able to take the medicine you need.

Take care, TC. Feel free to drop me a line at my email JG19902000@yahoo.com

DH