yep, my lying, cheating husband! I discovered he is still talking to her. He went out to get a tattoo and when he returned I had put all his clothes, shoes, toiletries, etc,in bags outside the back door. h came home and was shocked. My sis, bro and dh's dad and step-mom were all here. Just as my FIL and Brother were going to run out to get a new lock for the door he showed up. All the blinds were closed and I was peeking out the back window to see his reaction. He just stood there looking at the stuff. He looked dumbfounded. It was priceless!!! The phone rang and he says he doesn't understand why, did I have this whole thing planned (He thinks I don't have a brain obviously) , did his dad help me plan this, He then says he wants me to clean the house by the end of today so he can sell it. He wants me out, he's kicking ME out. lol. funny, he's locked out! He says he'll get the cops and make me leave. I said fine, you put all 3 kids in daycare, I'll go get a full-time job. Besides, I'm with the kids 24/7 and I run a business in the home, they won't make me leave. Then he says he wants my cell phone and van keys, he is going to sell the van. I said that's Gabby's only transportation to and from school. He says "Well, I don't have anywhere to go." I said "You were always w/ L why not go back to her? She's been there for you this whole time she should be there for you now!" I was so calm and collected you guys, I was really proud of my self!!!

My in-laws talked to him outside. His dad came in and said everything h has been saying for the last 3 weeks. He wants to reconcile, he will stop talking to her, blah, blah, blah...lies, lies, and more lies! I told FIL that is what he has been saying but, he's just lying. He will still see her. MIL told him he NEEDS to keep paying for everything. He needs to do that for his kids. He agreed. Well see...

So, now he is gone. I'm so relieved! oh and I got the locks changed

That's heavy Jen. What a day for you but it sounds like you needed this. Maybe he will come to his senses, maybe he won't. But stay strong and know we're here to offer you support.

Rough times in the short term but better days ahead either with him or without him. He screwed up and he either learns or he pays.

I did love the part about her being there for him now. Already a part of their relationship has died.

Jen

Yep, that is heavy. I am very proud of you for holding your head up high and standing up for yourself. I kicked my ex out the day I caught him in his A and two weeks later he begged his way back in saying he'd do everything right. He had me going for about a year too until I caught him in many more lies. :>)

Charlie

Jen, good for you. Stay strong. And retain a lawyer.

Chris.

I liked this part: >>I was so calm and collected you guys, I was really proud of my self!!!<< because (a) you were calm but firm and (b) because you were justifiably proud. We all know how very, very difficult it is to hold to your ground without getting upset in situations like that. Whatever happens from now on, you will always know that when the rubber hits the road you can be strong without losing your head .... and your h knows it too. In months of shouting and screaming you couldn't have said half as much, half as clearly. You may have just given your marriage the best chance of succeeding, whether or not you ever decide that you want it.

Good for you, I say.

Good for you for realizing where the boundaries are and when they are being crossed and then standing your ground. That took a lot of courage.

Wish you well,

H2C

I'm so proud that you're so proud! And clever girl, getting all your facts about your rights correct first. Get a good lawyer, and, for the time being, I wouldn't let him in the house.
As for cleaning it up to sell it, could you have said 'Yes, I'll do that, once you get the court order making me do it'
Well done - and don't back down now! If you ever do change your mind, let it be AFTER he has proven himself so you have absolutely no doubts.
Good on ya!
Love Sandy xxx