emotions of ~ This sucks I'm getting a divorce, I feel like a I failed for the past 9 years, but thank GOD I won't have to put up with his lies and cheating anymore!!!!!!!!
Reality check!!!! You didn't fail - HE DID. Keep on with the 'no more lies and cheating' thoughts.
You can do this! You're strong. He was weak. He will crumble, but don't let that soften your resolve. After 9 years, HE FAILED.
And don't you EVER forget it.
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