My x has some personal belongings of mine. I would like to have them back and I am certain he is counting on me to call him for them, which I am not going to do. Another time when I broke up with him this is what I did and it allowed me to be sucked in again. Some things I wouldn't care about but he has quite an expensive camera of mine.

It's been a week today, my friends say he SHOULD have enough integrity to return them, in the mail if necessary. I think he would like to keep them so I contact him. Under no circumstances do I want to contact him at all. Is it fair to ask a friend to ask him?

What to do in situations like this?

Judy

Personally, I'd write off the camera and the other belongings. You can always replace a camera, you can't replace your dignity and integrity. If he's holding those things in the hope of getting you to ask him for them, let him think again.
During my first divorce, which was as pleasant as a divorce can be, my x asked me what I wanted from the house. I said 'the dogs'. Nothing else, just them. Let him have every other thing and I don't miss any of it and have replaced it all over the years with better stuff. If its a really good camera, do you have accidental insurance on it? Could you say you 'lost' it? I know, thats naughty, but don't tell me its not been done before.

Sandy: You are correct, I just needed someone to say it. Thanks, Judy