I was hoping for some suggestions on how you get through the bad days.
After a few good days involving alot of honest talking I felt the pain setting in last night. Couldn't sleep and when I got up in the morning a feeling of isolation and pain had set in. I've read up on negative thinking and some techniques to stop them but nothing seems to help. I can't even talk to H about my feelings today because my thoughts are so random and all over the place. It feels like I just found out about the A today.
Any suggestions on what works to get you out of a sprialing day of negative thoughts?

Not sure I can help much here. But I had many days like that. As a matter of fact yesterday and last night was like that and I'm over 3 years since d-day. For me there is nothing to stop it other than to just go through it. Just let it happen and stay to yourself. Today is a better day than yesterday and I don't know why other than yesterday was the real pits. You just have to remember, while you are having a bad day, that it will get better - maybe tomorrow or the next day, but it will get better. It leaves just as quickly as it comes with no real explinations.

Wish you well, H2C

For me, physical exercise was my "release". When I was having a bad day, that heavy bag at the Tae Kwon Do studio got a good beating!

I know other people that wrote, journaled, etc.

Singing songs, ANYTHING but those sad sappy love songs, also can help.

Long walks are another way...

But most importantly, H2 nailed it. ALWAYS keep in mind that this too will pass. Unfortunately, there's no magic bullet to make it go away or get you through it faster. All you can do is go through it... Keeping mind that you WILL learn from this, and you WILL be a stronger and better person when you come out the other side...

Cory

You are not a human being having a spiritual experience, but a spiritual being having a human experience.

Physical activity does help, I'm not brainy but I think it releases some endomorphines or something like that which makes you feel better.
The other thing is, that I feel its a bit like bereavement and that you NEED to go through those stages. If someone dies and we don't go through the grieving process, it kind of catches up with us later. So maybe it should be embraced. Crying is a good release too xxx

Just a quick note to thank-you for the suggestions and support.
Wow, it's amazing how low some days can get. Knowing that others have survived the bad days help. Thanks again.

Mona
I've had lots of bad days, or at least parts of them. Sandy's suggestion about exercise often helps for me. You do have to feel those feelings, but the thing to believe is that it will get better. No matter how hopeless you feel at any point, it is only how you feel NOW.

Also, know that can start your day over again any time you choose. If the day starts off badly, it doesn't have to mean the whole day is shot. It's easy to fall into that thinking. But I know it is also easier to say this than to do it. I don't always practice what I preach.

-Rob

"Success is the quality of your journey"