Three months ago my boyfriend cheated on me. I knew it wasn't because they loved eachother or anything. He swears up and down they didn't have sex, and they only kissed, but he couldn't go any further because he only thought of me. I do believe him. I'm not here for people to tell me to get rid of him because hes just a boyfriend and not a husband. I need help on how to cope with it.

Lastnight, we went to a club and SHE was there. It ruined my whole night. Not only did it ruin mine, but it ruined his. I want to change, and I want to get over it. I just don't know the first step to doing it. Please someone help me. I'm finally coming out of my shell of trying to do it myself, and looking for you all to help me. I feel as if im in a deep hole, and I can't get myself out of it. I want to pull myself out more then anything.

T

P.S. I wrote this in the introduction, but I didn't include that this is the first time I'm sharing with my story with anyone except my mother. I go from angry, to sad, to scared, to crazy mad. Did everyone else deal with this also?

T wrote >>I go from angry, to sad, to scared, to crazy mad. Did everyone else deal with this also?<<

I sure did. I'd bet everyone else here did too. When I look back on it (six years for me), I still can't believe the kind of whollop that infidelity can pack.

As Chelle mentioned on the other board ... things do get better with time. It does matter what you do with that time, though. I'm thinking that you have made a good decision to begin to talk about it with others. I think you'll find that keeping it a secret can make things harder. The great thing about a board like this one is that no one will ever get annoyed if you talk about it. You can write about it as much or as little as you want.

Welcome to a club that nobody wants to join.

P.S. Are you related somehow to another poster here named GT?

Whats your gut instinct????
Worst case is that he did cheated on you.
Can you go on being with him and forgive him.