I just found out this AM that my H has cheated on me again. He had a one night stand 5 years ago and claims that this time was just a one time thing as well. Got a message from the OW's H but I have yet to speak to him directly so I don't know how long this went on. Ofcourse my H denied it all together, then said it wsa just flirting then when I told him what the guy said, he admitted that he slept with her once. As if I am to believe that it only happened once??? We have 4 kids. I just can't go through this again. Anyone have any knowledge of divorce laws in VA? I am still in such shock...

Hi! I am sorry that your H has cheated on you again.That must be an awful feeling. My H has cheated on me once & I am so afraid to ever trust him again. I just don't get this whole A business. I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do.

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I am so sorry that this happened to you. We can all say that we know how you feel...you are obviously still in the trama stage of it....feel free to write whenever to the poison needs to come out....I wish I just had a magic spell or pill or something to take that pain away......It takes time and guts and tears. Then more time and more tears. I don't get this A thing either. The lies and the betrayal are just evil. My H only was really stupid once (Pat referred to them as a brain burp I think). To have it come out twice??? Man, that is a deal breaker for me off the top of my head. I don't know your situation. I don't even know who bad I would react to that one coming off of this one. I must admit that as well as we are doing, I am scared s.....t...less that something else will come out, or this will happen again... It is amazing how you find out how important that little thing called trust is to you when it is shattered. That is a huge kick in the stomach...I am so, so sorry and like Barbara, I wish you luck and courage in whatever you decide to do. Jess

"Anyone have any knowledge of divorce laws in VA"

I am fairly familiar, yes. Send me an e-mail to chucky23456@yahoo.com and I'll try to answer some of your questions. I also have lots of material that I found back when this happened to me on laws I will send you. Lots of websites. My ex H also cheated more than once.

I will take my e-mail address out tomorrow. I'm sorry you've had to join us here but this is a great support group with lots of knowlegeable people.

Charlie