Welcome to the site Lore's H. I moved your post to the Open Forum as Discovery is for BS only.

Once again, welcome.

Regards,

Tex

Give me a break. Don't place all men in your 'jerks and liars' category. You played the field, got caught, and now you’re supposedly found morality. How 'bout accepting the resonsibility - you went outside the family pal and now your wife has to deal with her new reality...her husband lied to her so he could be with 'tramps'.

I find it odd that cheaters rationalize - don't tell everything cuz you don't want to make it any worse. How 'bout letting your spouse decide what she can handle. My guess is she is doing the best she can to deal with a lying husband who still rationalizes his actions.

My best to your wife & good luck with your newfound morality.

Joniie

Ok folks,

First of all Lore's H posted on the wrong forum which I have moved to the Open board.

If you find a post triggering you then step back and do not respond.

Please help us keep the boards safe for everybody.

Thank you.

Tex

Joniie

Although this post is no longer on "Discovery", I would like to address what you've said.

I read the post and see no rationalizing at all from Lore's H. He said she was beautiful, had a heart of gold and he loves his wife. He realizes that he has a great W and made a huge mistake. We try our hardest not to make wandering spouses feel attacked here because I can tell you that it is rare when a betrayed spouse IS remorseful enough to even put the effort to post here. Usually when they do, they want to do what it takes to help their spouse heal.

Believe me, those of us who have been here for several years have heard nearly every rationalization in the book and I didn't hear even one from his post. I heard that he never wanted to cheat again and would do what it takes to help his marriage - it is very rare that we hear that but there are those who have brought their relationship/marriage back to where they should be by committing to make things right. Coming here will help him a lot if we make it safe for him to do so.

If you have been recently betrayed, I understand your anger and pain and am sorry your going through it. Believe me, I've been there and back again. It is much easier to post now that I've been out of this situation for a few years and can see things very clearly. I can even see that good people make huge mistakes but I couldn't see that when my spouse cheated on me at first.

Welcome to the site both of you.

Charlie