This week has really been a bad one for me. I am not sure why. I have been sooooooo angry all week.Can't think of anything that triggered it.But i feel like the walls are closing in on me. I hate being this angry all the time but i can't seem to stop it. H is doing nothing to help matters either, he only gets angry too!!
Maybe part of it is because i don't see any real remorse or guilt from him. If i did i really think that would help, it sure wouldn't hurt.
I know by him posting on here is a start for him..That's great!! But i also need for him to show ME!! I am at my wits end right now.What do i do???
Hi Kathy! Wish I could give you a big hug!I'm sorry that you're having a bad week.I am doing pretty good right now. H & I talked the other night & it seemed to help me. We have alot of work ahead but we can't really get started on any of it until he finds a steady job. I think most of my bad moods come from my life being on hold. I will call you today & we can talk. You can take out your anger on me(hee!!).
I thought you had mentioned wanting to attend a Retrouvaille session. Did that not pan out for you, or are you waiting for the weekend to come up? Again, I can't stress enough how much that will help both of you to understand each other better and temper that anger and anxiety that both of you are carrying. It was an absolute turning point in our relationship. We were exactly where you are in terms of the frustration and miscommunication...except we had the Divorce papers signed and processed. If you feel like the walls are closing in on you now, don't let it get as far as it did with us. That's the point at which you are this close to feeling completely crushed by those walls.
There was one thing that one of the Retrouvaille people said to me before we attended that really stuck with me. He told me that by the end of the weekend, there will be no question in your mind as to which way you will want to go with your relationship. After having attended, I can see that to be true. There's no way to fake it if you commit yourself to the tools it gives you. Those tools are like big jackhammers that allow you both to start breaking down those walls. That's really what you need right now.
There were people in our session who drove from 3 hours away because they didn't want to - COULDN'T - wait for the next session in their area. I'm sure they don't view that long drive as a burden now.