I just discovered my wife's attempted cheating because I red her emails. We talked all about it and agreed to fix our relationship. I think she is trying to do her best but I can't stop thinking about the emails and the emotional affair she did. I can't help myself to always talked about it. What should I do? pls. help.
Sorry that you had a need to find us.This is a great site with many people who offer great advice.I am afraid that you can't really make yourself forget.All you can do is try & move forward.It takes ALOT of time.I spent over a year snooping & then in Sept 2005 I discovered the final iece of evidence.Anyway, I still think about my husband's affair everyday & I still cry & we still argue. Right now we are apart & I am not sure what the future holds. ANYWAY, it takes alot of time.The main thing to do is to eat,get some sleep & take care of yourself.
We all wish there was a way around this affair mess BUT we have all had to deal with it head on.I am still dealing with it & it sucks!If you are feeling like you need some help please see a doctor. There is nothing to be embarrassed about.You have to be able to eat & sleep or it will be even worse to stay in control of things.Just know that you arn't alone. You can post on here whenever you need some support. Believe me, we all know how you feel. Take care!
This brings up that old saying: Those who don't learn from the past are destined to repeat it.
Think about this way... If you DO forget, if you STOP talking about, if you STOP trying to repair your marriage, then you'll accomplish nothing.
DO talk about it. Let you and your W go through this process of healing, where you'll learn more about yourself and each other than you ever knew. It's a very long road, but it CAN be done. At almost 8 years past my D-Day, I'm living proof.
Positives CAN come out of this most negative time in your life. It all depends on how committed to healing the two of you are.
Cory
www.blind-justice-self-defense.com
The Three Rules of Happiness: Friends, Freedom and an Analyzed Life - Epicurus
Thank you for your replies. Right now, we are starting all over again. Just like what we have agreed on. I can't really blame her for what she did because I have done terrible things on her emotionaly and just only realized this recently.
I always think of what she did but I know I can't really do anything about the past. All I can do is, do all my best to prevent it from ever happening again.
