So your H was talking to a (female) coworker a lot without your specific knowledge of each and every call, but you have always known that they work together and talk. You don't like the coworker and choose not to associate with her.
You are in the right place as far as I can tell...additionally there are a lot of people who will listen. I have to admit that I can understand you thinking you were being slammed, but you weren't to my knowledge.
Each of us has a different style of writing both in telling our stories and responding to posts. Many of us don't sugar coat things, that doesn't mean we don't understand or have compassion for others.
Five years ago I was in pain, full of anger, full of doubt, and would go up and down like the roller coaster from hell that we all ride. Those mood swings along with all the other crap that I was feeling made me hypersensitive to what folks would take from my writing. For a long time I would explain and explain again the point I was trying to make.
Without body language to observe, without tone or inflection in the spoken word, but in just reading in black and white it is easy to misunderstand, or be misunderstood.
Please come back and share more with us.
Dave
This message has been edited by OleMarbleEyes on Aug 27, 2007 11:18 PM
Kelli, I'm sorry I offended you with my question. I'm the kind of person who prefers to understand clearly what a story is about before I try to offer support. There was a lot of detail in your story, and some of it was not clear to me. I especially wasn't clear on whether you suspected that more was happening than phone calls. An emotional affair is one thing; an emotional affair that gets physical is something else entirely.
I hasten to add that one is not "worse" than the other, just different.
Again, my apologies. I have always found most people here to be understanding and supportive. Challenging sometimes, but understanding and supportive.