"How do you know when you're the light of someone's life?" They treat you with respect...and do "little things" to let you know you matter....
--> So does your husband do this?
"How do you know when someone really loves you?" I can't answer this one, I have no idea
--> See questions above and below.
"Does "passion" mean "hot sex" to you?" No, passion, to me, means...intimacy...(yes, there's a difference)....a spark, it's the wanting to hold after he's got his...or even...wanting to ...without the sex...
--> Speaking from my own experience, some men don't really understand how important this is for their wives without being told (gently, of course). It is not uncommon for men to think of "sex" and "intimacy" as the same thing.
I don't quite understand how a "spark" and that close, holding warmth and "intimacy" go together, though. If the woman in my life said something about "sparks" it would have a completely different meaning to me.
"And the really big question: do you still believe love exists IN YOU for your husband? (That's not a "gotcha"; many of us questioned whether we could or did still love a WS.)" Yes...I still love him.....but I don't respect him...and I feel like I may not really know him at all.
--> How can you love someone you don't respect and don't really know?