Greetings everyone:
As you know my H left Saturday night while I was at a Christmas dinner-party. I called him from the party and he sounded like he might show up, but obviously he never did. When I got home he was gone. His excused, the same as usual; “I am tired of the fighting”. The thing is that we were not arguing at the time! I was at a party and when I called him he seemed ok. After my discovery I went on a mission! This is the forth time he leaves me. In the past he has taken our money and items from the house. He has wasted a lot of money that later we needed in these crazy escapes. So I went on line and cancelled all my credit cards, transferred the money from our join account into my individual account, cancelled his cell phone and change the locks; all in three hours. Next, I talked to my 16 years old D and told what had happened, she was not surprised either. And finally I lay down and prayed and read the bible until I fell asleep. It was 7am by then. At 9:30 am the H called! Asking me if I had send the child support check to his ex-wife because I handled the payments and she told him that she haven’t received it. I couldn’t believe the nerve of this guy. I told him that since he left the house, he was on his own. By the way I discovered the check on top of the kitchen table. This means that I have a little more money. Today, I concentrated in praying and thinking positive and finding out ways to get money flowing into our household since I am not working at this time and his salary will be highly missed. I was staying busy when guess what! He shows up and comes to the door trying to use his key!! NOT! So we talked thru the window because I would not let him in. Then he said that he came so we can get the cell phone fixed. And I told him straight up that he left and from now on he would have to get his own phone his own car and his own place, by the way his car in under my name too. He left furious and cursing me out. Too bad. So you think that was the end of it? No he later called in a very humble tone of voice to ask if I could please give him the card for the GYM, so he could take showers there because he is staying in his office. No I haven’t cried yet you may think that maybe because I know that he will suffer more this time or perhaps because I am over him. But I know the reason: This is all part of God’s plan and I trust him to give me the victory that I have prayed for so long.

Right On...sounds like you are on a roll....I am sure that he will get the message now. It will be interesting to see what transpires. You sound like you feel good about what you have been able to do...

Way to go Irene! You hang in there! I think what you did was great!Now lets see how he likes living on his own!!! You take care of yourself & your daughter. She should be proud of what a strong mom she has!

Wow! You are one strong lady, and it sounds like you need to be, for your sake and your daughters. I am sending prayers your way.

Take Care,
Carol~

Irene

I can't tell you how happy I am to see you sticking up for yourself. Way to go!

Next step, change the locks. LOL

I also took the tough love approach back when I originally caught my ex and it felt good to take a little control back into my life after what he did to me. Good on ya.

Charlie

Wow Irene . Talk about setting your mind to doing something and then doing it.

Obviously he wasn't prepared for your reaction this time. It didn't take long for him to come sniffing around did it?

When he starts whining, complaining, feeling sorry for himself, crying, getting angry, threatening divorce... remember one thing: Your actions weren't about punishing him. They were about protecting you and your daughter.

Stay strong. He has alot of work to do on himself and you need to see actions not words this time.

Regards,

Tex