What should I make of silence? He left Saturday night and Sunday morning he called to find out if I had send a child support check to his ex-wife. Then on Monday he came by asking me to activate the cell phone and to hold on to his mail. Later on Monday he called asking me to give him the gym card so he could take a shower there. Today is Tuesday and I am wondering where is he? Is almost 6pm, so he is probably on his way to work. All day I didn’t hear from him. And all day I have wondered about him. God I still love him, but I didn’t cry and I am still hopeful that the Lord is doing his thing. However, my mind keeps on playing tricks on me. I know I have to be strong and wait until he makes a move, but part of me wants to run by his job and see him. This is not right! The M cheated, lied, and betrayed me among other things. So what I am thinking by hoping that he would stop by or call. It is over!!! I know is all a process but I feel so bad. I think I am going out and get a rental. A good Demy Moore movie should cheer me up. I just hope that these feelings go by fast because it is truly a drag. Thanks for reading this.

Hang in there Irene....what you are experiencing is separation anxiety...I am the POSTER CHILD for it. You long to maintain contact with him because you are attached to him. These feelings will wane with time...but you have to give it time. Try to do something OTHER than contact him...everyone on this forum is laughing out loud because I was NOT good at NOT calling. I have had no contact for almost 2 weeks and I am not much better but certainly no worse. As you stated, this man is simply wanting you to take care of him. He is an adult, can walk, talk, and even drive...he can take care of himself. He can get his own gym card, fix his own cell phone, and assume responsibility for himself. Rent a bunch of movies, you might need the continuous distractions. Unplug the phone...that way it won't ring. If you have a cell phone, use that for contact with your children. You don't need to talk to him. He LEFT YOU IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT. I am sorry that this is the beginning of the holidays...that will bring some sadness I am sure. Keep busy and stay away from the house if you have to. Do some volunteer work...I went to the library and shelved books for them...it was a great distracter and a great help to them as well. Hang in there.....

Hi Irene! Hang in there girl! You need some time & space for yourself. Just think of this 'no contact time' as a gift to yourself. A lull in the madness that has been your life lately. H will be fine on his own. Just think about yourself & your daughter, Do something together to get ready for the holidays or just relax. My 18 yr, old & I love to go to movies together.Plan a mother/daughter afternoon together. Pamper yourself!Take care!