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I'm posting on 3 boards to get to meet ev.one faster...I'm so glad you guys are here!!
Hi, I'm new,been living with "ex" even since begin. of his affair, in feb of 04....my decision, to not React,turns out good, I still have control of money and we have talked it thru to the point of understanding, even friendship...my storiy's a bit different cuz he told me about his feelings for her from day 1, and I always knew when he went to see her, he never lied, and she knows I knew too...there is no site for wives who's husbands never lied about affair....we have 14 yr old son together...he has slept on couch since aug. 04, started hav sex w/ her sept 04...it is an old girlfriend from 20 years ago ...they bumped into eachother at the movie theater,,(The Passion, of all things), and realized they still loved eachother...hmmmm...how come I never heard of her till now?? Oh, yeah, also we are not legally married, but always felt married,decided together not to marry, both came from prior abusive relations... that is my story in a nutshell...they are supposed to buy her sisters house together, but he keeps putting it off, go figure....he feels Very responsible for my bills, and for our son, and for me foer that mater..he says ..."I didn't stop loving you, it's not like I'm sick of you...I wish this hadn't happened...and he says he still loves me, always will, butt better to follow your heart than to stay w/ someone while thinking of/ loving another...hard to argue with that....having his cake and eating it too??? in some ways yes, which he'll admit.....so anyway, I've been thru IT, first grief, then manipulating situations trying to bring him to his senses, etc....but today I can say I've grown leaps and bounds, I've re-connected with the independant ME, I see guys if I want to...havent much, but a lot on an i-net site I belong to.....I think I could help other women possibly, becuz I've chosen to turn this negative into a positive, and have chosen to grow spiritually from it...on top of evthing else, I am a recovering alcoholic of 5 yrs, and he is too,15 yrs....but I have not drank over this...I have wonderful women support groups who have kept me sane....well that is my story, I have looked all over for a site like this, am so glad to have found you!!! thank-you!! Josy

wow!!! what an inspirational story.Short to the point like you i`ve decided to grow, use it as a positive, do things I haven`t done before.sometimes I find it exciting sometimes I feel down.But I still prod along There`s a new world out there.I can`t wait to explore.This is part of my healing process AND like you again I am glad I found this site.I do hope you read this as you posted your letter some time ago