I went for lunch today to this sub shop and I am sitting eating when this perfectly dreamy guy walks in. He is with another guy, no rings, no indications he is attached.
So im eating my lunch and his eyes keep meeting mine and I smile, he smiles back. I am sitting there thinking of how to approach this guy and he spills something down the front of him........he looks at me and starts laughing and makes some comment which was the perfect opening for me to start chatting with him............BUTTTTT NOOOOOOOOO
I give him this blank probably stupid expression and say nothing. I can't....I don't have any saliva in my mouth by this point. So he gets up and leaves with his buddy shortly after and gives me a bit of a wave as he is walking out the door.
MEANWHILE IM SITTING THERE LIKE A FRIGGIN IDIOT THINKING OMG DAMN THIS GUY IS FINE..................I AM SOOOOO PISSED AT MYSELF RIGHT NOW.
So then im driving home thinking...omg I think he just hit on me............im oblivious I tell ya....
STUPID STUPID STUPID
See my knight in shining armour might as well run me over for all the attention I would pay lol
Anybody else feel completely and irrevocably disturbed by this dating game ????
Guys.........what the hell should i have said or done???? For future reference just in case the God's are on my side and I happen to see him around again (yeah like that's likely)....only 1/120 000 LOL
If you lose all your saliva and your mouth goes dry, where does it go? OK. Enough with my goofy self. But if it happens in the future, you can always wink. (wink wink)
Wish I wasn't the guy who always thinks of the perfect words on the drive home. Wish I was the guy who could come up with the perfect words at the right place and at the perfect time but I've never been built that way and I don't guess that's going to change any time soon. I probably wouldn't have had the sense to let it go. I'd be like "boy - you sure made a mess of yourself, didn't you?". I'm just glad I may not be the only one who feels oblivious, stupid, and completely and irrevocably disturbed.
SO as a sidenote I think it must be Valentine's Day buildup or those damn tanning sessions are leaving me with glowing skin but I logged into the usual online dating site and had two wonderful chats with seemingly nice men. Maybe I shouldn't give up on buying a lottery ticket today just yet. Im calling one of them shortly....he gave me his cell phone number.................
HAHAHAHA just my luck he is married or something LMAO
edited to add: Well forget that theory........he gave me a friggin fake phone number!!!
This message has been edited by Canuck_Kid on Feb 5, 2005 9:17 PM
Kid, don't be so hard on yourself. I think it is unlikely that true and lasting love will be found in a sandwich shop or bar or Mickey D's by a chance meeting. Lightning strikes are rare; of my circle of acquaintances (at least the ones where I know the story of how they met), only one couple admits they met in a bar...and then they found common ground because both belonged to the same small religious denomination. THAT was the attraction that pulled them together.
Most of the rest of the married people I know met through some shared activity...work, school, church, community activities, the arts, whatever. I think the chance of a good bond is enhanced by mutual interests. (Disclaimer: I met my first significant other at school and my wife at church.)
I suspect you might even surprise yourself by looking at someone you already know in a new light. My first long-term relationship happened that way. Friends first, part of the same social group.
>>You show me any guy that had the perfect line at the perfect time except in a movie<<
Tom Cruise, where are you when I need you? And besides, these days it's hard to trust anyone who is too smooth.
>>Friends first, part of the same social group<<
I like the "friends first" idea my own self because it takes the pressure off. Back in college, a friend who was a truly "nice guy" who was also battling a weight problem joined a dancersize class (do they have those anymore?). He just smiled when we all kidded him about the fact he was the only male in the class.
Then, one day, as I was walking through the gym, I spotted him in his class. As it turned out, his classmates (many of whom were much fitter than he was) had taken him on as the class project - they were helping him learn the steps.
From then on, I had enormous respect for him. He seemed like a very wise man.
Maybe not, Q. I remember knowing more than one "teddy bear" type. Women liked 'em (generally) because they were non-threatening...and a "project". I think that might have some potential bad effects for the guy. Either a "project manager" would forever think him to be putty in her hands to be shaped as she wished (a Bad Thing(tm) in my book)...or she would be oblivious once he started to have/show feelings for her.
I am not interested in being any woman's "project". ("My Fair Lady" in reverse.) See "acceptance".
Hang in there sweetie. Someday a special man will ask you for your phone number, and your address. Before long he'll ask you what your favorite color happens to be, and whether you like chocolate.
I know that being "single" can get a bit lonely and frustrating. But we don't want to snag the first good looking, available guy. Wait a minute, maybe we do . Seriously though, if a person feels deseperate, they could put on blinders and end up with the wrong person-
AGAIN! We surely don't want Mr. Wrong! Mr. Wong is OK, but not Mr. Wrong.
Try to relax and be patient. I know it's tough. Like Miss Brodie said, 'I'm in my prime!" LOL
Why buy the bull just for a little sport?????hahahaha
Seriously, im not expecting Mr. Right to walk into my life, but it would be nice to have someone that hugs me and kisses me occasionally.
And i don't really believe in fairy tales and happily ever after. But i do believe there is chemistry and a spark with some people. You just look at them and think............wowsers I will have two of those to go please
I agree. Can't start a fire without a spark (in the immortal words of the Jersey Bard Springsteen). But sometimes that just leads to dancing in the dark. If that's all you want, can't argue. (I could use a little dancing in the dark with "Ms. Right Now" too.)
That isn't all I want but if I was dating somebody I wouldn't abstain from it just cause I thought this isn't Mr. Right. Another words I don't subscribe to the theory that sex should be saved for that special someone you want to marry.
I think that what happens in the bedroom is an important part of a relationship and you truly don't know you have found Mr. Right until you have explored that whole arena. I guess my thinking is more modern in this area.
Which brings me to a incident that happened last night while my friend (male) and I were bowling. The lane beside us had a bunch of university students, half male half female. So the guys were playing against the girls and the girls lost. So this guy (a boyfriend of one of the girls) shouts out.........round of head for all! MAYBE im not THAT modern cause I almost walked over to the guy and slapped him..........the girls thought it was funny and I thought to myself OMG how demeaning. YEP THERE IS MR RIGHT LMAO................
Being an older woman, I guess I was feeling concerned for you, but then I realized ,"This is Kid, she's not going to put up with any s**t from a man. " LOL
>>I don't subscribe to the theory that sex should be saved for that special someone you want to marry.
I think that what happens in the bedroom is an important part of a relationship and you truly don't know you have found Mr. Right until you have explored that whole arena. I guess my thinking is more modern in this area.<<
I thought this more than 25 years ago. Does that make me "modern" too?
Nope......I kicked my H out cause I wouldn't put up with his shit.......I sure as hell won't put up with it from anybody else either
If that were my Mr. Right I would be hightailing it out of the bowling alley......or he would have been at the end of my stinky bowling shoe. hehehehehe
...as intriguing as a good bit of physical gratification sounds right now (heck its been dry around here for years), I think what I miss most about being in a non-relationship is true companionship.
What I mean is that person with whom I could share something fun, something beautiful, something interesting, something intriguing. I mean some really good conversation, some sincere laughter, and a shared bit of adventure and discovery. Actually, come to think of it, I didn't really have alot of this while the marriage was good either. I married my H at a very young age when I didn't really know who I was and as I grew into myself and my interests he didn't come along. He never liked the same music, the same films, the books, nothing. I had a university education and have a keen interest in the arts, contemporary and classical, and he, well, he barely graduated high school and his idea of "arts" is a full-day marathon of Rocky films and Meatloaf's greatest hits on CD...
While a good roll in the hay sounds good, I think ultimately it would be a little too empty for me. To me sex is best when it comes after spending a great day together.
But hey Kid, the next time you connect with a guy across a room probably the best way to signal some interest is a great smile and some good old eye contact. If he doesn't come across the room and introduce himself with that type of encouragement he's an idiot...
You don't have to have romance to have that kind of connection with another person. I shared interests with friends for many years, single and married.
Unfortunately, when my marriage went to hell, I stopped spending time on those interests (and those people). Bad mistake.
Yep Kid, I agree with Jane's idea on the smile and eye contact :>) Obviously if you are getting those looks across the room, he is finding you very attractive.
"I think that what happens in the bedroom is an important part of a relationship and you truly don't know you have found Mr. Right until you have explored that whole arena."
I agree with this as well but like Jane says, that would just top off a really great day.
I didn't have that topper today but you know I went with my BF today to his parents house and we (his parents, two of his sisters, and us) sat and did a jigsaw puzzle (a hard one LOL) with them for hours while all the kids played. I hadn't done one of those puzzles since I was a kid or since my kids did little kiddy ones. You know what? I had a great day doing next to nothing. I know it is funny but I love his families ability to do the simple stuff and still have a good time and I love the fact that he actually wanted to do what some would think of as a stupid puzzle as well. How many guys here would sit around doing a silly puzzle and have fun at it? Perhaps I'm asking the wrong crowd that question - maybe there's a bunch here :>) Anyway, his family is very functional, caring, and chatty like mine and it is quite the change from my ex's family (except his dad) - I'm really liking it! They don't care if they are impressing someone or not and I love that about them. My ex's family had to have everything absolutely perfect and pristine and they were more about keeping up appearances and my BF's family is more about each other.
But if it happens in the future, you can always wink. (wink wink) 
