Not meaning to start a forum war I was wondering if anyone who has cheated on their spouse could give their perspective on the reasons why they did what they did, if they feel guilty about it, the justification. Maybe if people who have been cheated on could gain insight in to the other side of the equation we could avoid future mistakes. Which doesn't mean to say that people who are cheated on are to blame but I think information is power. I realize that the reasons people give for cheating could fill a book, but if there's someone out there brave enough to step up and give their perspective it may help everyone. I would also ask that people not be judgemental towards anyone who does step up. I personally have heard reasons that range from "I thought it would enhance our marriage" to "my huusband was physically/emotionally abusive and someone gave me a shoulder to cry on and provided me with security because I was afraid" As I mentioned before any responses to someone who does share their feelings should be non judgemental and not overly criticizing because once that happens education stops.