You know I tried asking my ex many times to teach my son how to ride a bike because with me being with him (both kids) most of the time already, I figured that could be a male bonding thing but also that my son would listen more to him. He tried ONCE and my son was about 6 1/2 when we separated and when my son started whining, he quit and never did it again. He had had it.

Many kids can ride at 5 and a few at 4 or younger.

Yesterday the five of us BF, his daughter and my boys all went bike riding and he spent a good hour to hour and a half teaching my 8-year-old how to ride a bike and he did it. I thought that having a man teach him would be better than mom because I had tried a handful of times and it never worked. Yes, my son was frustrated but BF was very calm and wonderful about it and by the end he was riding and turning circles, etc.

I wrote my ex an e-mail about him learning, of course leaving out that BF taught him but I'm wondering if dad will ask who taught him because he knew the 5 of us were going together??? It just makes me mad that my ex would rarely ever do active things with my kids like this. BF also likes taking the kids bowling and to the beach and even has fun. This makes me wonder how I managed with such a selfish person all these years??? I'm not saying my ex won't do anything with the kids but he only wants to do stuff like sitting in the house playing strategic games or video games or watching TV - just some of the things that caused problems in our relationship b/c my ex didn't know when to stop these and other things. I really think some of the best times in my life were doing outdoor kid stuff and I'm really grateful this man is in my life now

Charlie

My daughter had a similar experience with her XH relating to the kids. Now she is married to the best guy and he just loves doing stuff with the girls. And his son, whom he had not had much contact with over the years, is now part of the family too thanks to my daughter's loving acceptance. My granddaughter, who just turned 8, does not want to ride a bike yet either...funny how those kids are. Glad you had such a great day.

Judy