Certainly I am concerned about the finances and the fact that we are just a couple of days away from telling the kids and shaking their world to the core.
Last night I saw what I think I always knew about why she kept me around all these months, maybe all these years even. How it affects her. Bills coming due and overall financial stress in addition to the fact that now no one will be here to enable the Jerry Springer lifestyle. Never about us.
I am just kind of nervous because while not the first time doing this, it still has been a long time and it's that venture into the unknown.
Only have a minute before heading to work, but I want to send you good energy today. I have a saying I repeat when I start having fears about money. Think abundance instead of scarcity. It works every time for me. Think you will have more than your needs and usually your needs will be taken care of besides a little perk you might never have imagined. You have lots going for you, Moe. You're a resourceful and good guy. Keep up the good work.
Thinking of you as you go through this new journey.
I just wanted to wish you luck and. I think you will find healing in all of this. I do not envy the task of telling the children. That would undoubtibly be the hardest part for me. I know you will find the right words because you have a huge heart! And you do deserve much better than that "Jerry Springer" lifestyle. Too much drama....way too draining on ones mind, soul & spirit. You deserve peace and happiness and I hope that is what you will find...eventually, in time.
"Do not fear the unknown, embrace it! It is fear that makes us feel alive. It is fear that makes us grow." I know I read this somewhere, lol. Dont know if I could embrace fear myself. I am not ready just yet...but are we ever really ready to face our fears? Maybe not, so you just have to go for it, ready or not, I guess.
Mo - I'm sending you all my best thoughts as you undertake this move and the daunting task of telling the children. That has got to be the scariest part. Let us know how it all goes.
Stand tall. You are the one with integrity. You deserve better and you will get it.
Telling the kids is definitely a huge source of dread. But you have to do it the best you can.
My STBXW has made a point to compare us to a couple who after 4 years of divorce are fooling around trying to be together. Her friend's XH is married and playing the cakeman. STBXW says she is scared we'll learn this divorce is a mistake and pride or circumstances won't let us get back together. Her friend and her husband is again an example of her drive for drama. They are motivated by the drama in their lives just as she and her OM are. It won't be pride nor circumstances that will keep us apart forever, it will be that she killed the part of my heart and soul which was hers.
But I think of her surrounding herself in drama in her own life and involving herself in everyone else's drama. She and her friends are so Jerry Springer and I am C-SPAN.
Well, I don't think I can find any better. No tub but a nice standup shower. I passed on a place because of tub and no shower. Nice size closets and nice size rooms. Hardwood floors. New fridge and stove. Plenty of yard and a garage. It'd be a squeeze to afford it but a 6-month lease just in case. Looks like we have a winner.
Moe I have been following your story along with Rob's, we must be the divorce newbie club lol
I am glad you have found a place to hang your hat and give you some space.......I agree its not my first d either but my first wife and I didn't have kids......my current ex and I do...it makes it so much harder esp when i still love her...fortunatley we are getting along well considering the circumstances.
Good luck in your new pad!
hey moe, think of it as an adventure, i know that sounds a bit screwy, but hey, you can pick things you want etc etc. 6 months is a good time frame, to see if you really like the place etc.
when i did a house hunt after my ex and i split, i thought of it as a bit like christmas, it was exciting to get a new place, new things etc and then to un pack old stuff i had forgotten about. remember too, you dont have to have everything all at once, you just need a decent, clean place to feel safe in and then go from there - you can do this!
oh, i didnt think gerry springer was a lifestyle, god if it is, i would get rid of it straight away hahaha, too many odd people, half naked throwing themselves around in public, not pretty at all haha
JB, I call James Brown JB so it's a term of respect... Good Gawd!
My first X and I didn't have kids either and I moved out immediately. Very easy in comparison to this. And I am feeling right along with Rob because I know how he feels. He does get what my first X gave me with a little bit of honesty, but it is so much better than the runaround I got for 5 months.
Kath, it is sad but also exciting at the same time. I was very upbeat as my STBXW went to lay down before work and I called the landlady to make arrangements to sign the lease and pick up the keys. I got a little bit more of the Cybill action from STBXW this evening. Sad and apologetic then angry and snippy then back to sad and apologetic.
But you're right. Room to grow. Get back on my own two feet and dust myself off. I grew to love single life the last time I did it. I believe it will be the same now.
