Well, I have finally met someone I think I could really like. It has almost been two years and I'm freaking out. To put myself out there like that again... I don't know. It would seem silly to end it now, before ever knowing where it could lead, but I really don't think I could go through another heart break.
Steve Perry's song "foolish hearts" comes to mind. "Will my lonely heart play the part Of the fool again. Before I begin Foolish heart, hear me calling. Stop before you start falling"
Congratulations! That is exciting, and I'm sure scarey. There are a lot of cliche's that would apply here, nothing ventured, nothing gained would be one!
I would suspect you have a heightened sensitivity to some things given past history, and it IS difficult to 1) trust your own judgement of people, 2) sort out what is angst and fears related to the past, and what is to do with the present relationship, and 3, just the usual things you need to sort through and think about with any new romance.
All I can advise is to talk things out, really communicate with this person. Hopefully he is someone that is willing to do this. Think about your boundaries and what is no big deal and what is a deal breaker to you. Take your time. I made the mistake of rushing into a new committment and it has been very difficult. In retrospect I would have done things very differently.
You've had two years to "find yourself" and learn some things, heal a little. There will still be triggers, and you may displace some anger or whatever on your new guy, just think it through, talk.
Thanks for the incouragement. Yesterday was our 10th date... OMG! I've gone out with a couple of different people before, but I think I've been playing it safe & dating guys I knew I wouldn't fall for. So far I really like this guy. I feel comfortable with him (usually I'm nervous the first couple of dates). I'm going to try real hard not to over think things. He gives me butterflies in my stomach (I forgot what that felt like)...
Thanks
Sherrie
