... so I just wanted to say that my divorce is just fine. 

Jean

lol Jean !!!

And as you walk you make your path Kat

Funny.

Glad to hear the news.

Since we're on the subject, my divorce is shrinking away in the rear view mirror of life.

My final divorce papers were signed Friday.

SHAKIN LEFT
SHAKIN IT RIGHT
CHA CHA CHA
DOING THE DIVORCE DANCE!!!
DIVORCE DANCE
CHA CHA CHA
YAHOO!!!!!!

There, did that liven things up for ya LOL

Congratulations and condolences, Kid.

Like RW's, my divorce is receding in the rear view now that I live in a home I've never shared with my ex and have a completely new career.

Here's the most appropriate lyric (at least to me) for divorce:

(from "Already Gone" by The Eagles)


Well I know it wasn't you who held me down
Heaven knows it wasn't you who set me free
So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains
And we never even know we have the key

But me, I'm already gone
And I'm feelin' strong
I will sing this vict'ry song
'Cause I'm already gone
Yes, I'm already gone
And I'm feelin' strong
I will sing this vict'ry song
'Cause I'm already gone

----

Indeed. But once we find that key, look out.


Chris.

Maybe that's good news...that the divorce board is silent....perhaps divorce is not the issue for some...it's inevitable for some of us. Kid...why did it take so long for your divorce to be final? Where is your "ex"/former spouse? Are Canadian laws different from USA ones?

AND, Chris....I am still confused about you....I have a tendency not to pay attention to details.....are you the male Chris???? Login chris 924? I keep thinking there are two Chris's on the board...one female and one male. Is that right? Fill in the blanks for me if you can. Again, I don't pay much attention to detail...DUH...maybe that's why I had to find this place...

Maybe that's good news...that the divorce board is silent....perhaps divorce is not the issue for some...it's inevitable for some of us. Kid...why did it take so long for your divorce to be final? Where is your "ex"/former spouse? Are Canadian laws different from USA ones?

Yes the laws are different in Canada. In order to obtain a divorce you must live seperate and apart for a period of at least one year. Then you must find your spouse in order to serve him the papers. Since mine walked out the door and wouldn't give me a forwarding address this was a bit difficult. Plus I had to start the divorce proceedings, because he wouldn't and financially I was not in great shape to do that. I finally decided enough was enough and the $1200 to get him out of my hair was going to be paid one way or another. (not that he was ever really in my hair, but you know what I mean I think!) Anyway as it turned out my lawyer found him in Red Deer Alberta where he moved in the spring AND he actually sent money to my lawyer to cover his half!!!!! Hope springs eternal lmao. So all is well that ends well.

In Canada the seperation agreement (which we had in place for 3 years now) took care of all the details of assets, pensions, RRSP's, vehicles etc so the divorce paper is just that - a piece of paper saying its final. There is no alimony or support issues since we don't have children and alimony is next to impossible to get in Canada unless you don't work outside the home.




AND, Chris....I am still confused about you....I have a tendency not to pay attention to details.....are you the male Chris???? Login chris 924? I keep thinking there are two Chris's on the board...one female and one male. Is that right? Fill in the blanks for me if you can. Again, I don't pay much attention to detail...DUH...maybe that's why I had to find this place...

I can help you out here......CHRIS is a man! A very fine gentleman with a southern accent that I had the pleasure of meeting once

Interestingly enuff, NC laws are the same, Kim. The legal separation spells it out in details so that after 1 full year of living apart one can petition for a divorce.

I did not lol, I got notice of my divorce when I noticed a post-it note from the sheriff dept. asking me to come and pick up my divorce papers 4 years after our legal separation ....To this day I can tell you the date of the separation.. the divorce? heck I don't even know where the papers are at this time I really don't need them - 10 years later I got married again.

And as you walk you make your path Kat

I was separated for 2 years before I moved forward with the divorce.  Turns out I didn't neet to move that slow.   Then again, maybe I did...for me.

Jean

In VA, you must live separate and apart for one year before you can file for divorce. Then I'm told it can take six month to a year to get a court date.

Indiana's divorce law is one of the "easiest".

You have to live in Indiana for 60 days before you file. You can file while still living together (I did). There are two grounds for filing:

1. One party has to state that the marriage "has irretrievably broken down".

OR

2. One party has to be convicted of a felony.

Which means that a marriage is over when one person says so. Or when one person goes to jail...and even then, it's up to the other party to decide. So the second ground is pretty much irrelevant.

A marriage is over when one party says so. In some ways, Indiana's a little backward. But in divorce, I think we're way ahead of everyone else, 'cause our legislature at least got that part right. It takes two to start a marriage, but only one to end it.

Chris.

On the other side of the coin.......

If marriages were a bit harder to get out of, maybe people would stick with them and try a bit harder to work the problems out OR not marry unless they were planning on staying that way. Now discarding your spouse is as easy as discarding your garbage.

Kid

Kid, people who for some reason aren't "whole" will always enter into marriage without being truly ready. The rest of us have to have a way out of such a marriage after a long period of trying to fix things we can't fix.

Chris.

That's how I see it.

--Rosie