Well, we had a post ("from a dating site") where people discussed what they didn't like to see in a potential partner.

What are the top 3 traits that are important in a potential partner for you? What do you believe would make a second marriage work for you?

Chris.

Honesty about everything

Respectible and rational communication

Having a fun time together

Can I have more than 4?

No addictions, abuse, neglect, ignorance, selfishness, etc. Someone who can show their feelings, be ethical and kind, non-materialistic, grounded, and fair.

1. Smoking hottttt


2. Bi-sexual


3. Always wants sex


I should have married a blow-up doll.


Jordan

Children make great life jackets.

1. honesty, respect

2. a good communicator

3. doesn't think he is a Mr. Know It All

Well Chris, I'm curious what you, as a man would put? What is the most important for you?

Charlie

I'd be hesitant to say that "I, as a man, want...". Here is what I wrote in answer to that question almost a year and a half ago:
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Chris
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Re: A New Partner March 19 2006, 7:41 PM

I guess it could all be simplified to "I want an honest and open partner I can live and sleep with for the rest of my life in all good faith."

Chris.
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So I guess that makes my three:

1. Good communication ("an honest and open partner")
2. Someone I want to be around ("can live and sleep with for the rest of my life")
3. Trust ("in all good faith")

(I think I originally came up with a list of ten or eleven qualities or life situations at the beginning of that "A New Partner" thread a year and a half ago, but this pretty much boils all those down.)

Chris.

Sense of humor

Not interested in alcohol

Active and at least fairly fit

Confident and self-assured

Not over-bearing

Vulnerable sometimes

Generous

Healthy sexuality

RW