Well, I'm considering myself fairly lucky right now. My ex, who is in the military, is leaving for 3 months soon and his fiance talked to me a couple weeks ago and asked if she could still take my boys every other weekend when my ex was gone. They may be married before he leaves but, if not, it will happen soon. I really like her, she had gotten several sign language books and is genuinely trying to learn to sign with my son with a disability (she even bought one for my BF) and she is fairly stern with her son and mine (doesn't let them get away with stuff), yet loving as I believe I am. I told her I was okay with it as long as she was okay with the extra care my special needs guy needs and she said she felt strongly about them feeling like they lived in their house too when their dad is gone. I think it is good for the kids and honestly good for me to get a break now and then and agreed to do it. I think if they only went when he was there that they wouldn't feel like they belonged when my ex gets back. Anyway, it's funny how thinks work out sometimes... What do you all think about this turn of events?

Charlie

WOW, Charlie... his GF sounds awesome! As a former step-mom, I know how difficult it can be to blend families. That is just the kind of thing I would have done to give step-d and I some bonding time, too.

My step-d and I had lots of times when my ex was working late, or was not available for when she was to be picked up. It was more "normal" for me to go get her rather than make her wait on her Dad. Plus, it showed her that she was always a priority to us, even when his schedule was jacked up.

I think it's great that his GF is making that offer. How cool.

Monica

"I have all I've waited for and I could not ask for more"

I think I'm glad my kids were teenagers when my divorce took place.

This part, the dealing with kids who are going to be home for quite a while, sounds difficult. Your ex seems to know how to pick nice people, Charlie.



Chris.

Charlie,
It is not common to find such maturity and dedication, especially when it can be painful and takes so much hard work.
Oh, and what your Ex's GF is doing is great too!

Grown people making good decisions and putting children first- this is what makes the world go 'round.

M

Thanks you all.

Well, ex and GF moved into their new house, about a 3200 sq foot home in the back of my neighborhood last week. He said they are getting married in October. That doesn't suprise me, I'm glad he found someone decent who is great with my kids.

Charlie

Charlie,

the fact that she wants to spend time with your children is such a plus in my book...the more people that love your children the better for them.

Pat

"Time is precious, but truth is more precious than time."