FWS and I talked this past Saturday night ... and I told him that I'm done.  He was full of mixed emotion.  Despite all of the other emotions that we are both feeling ... I think we both feel an overall sense of relief.  We agreed that we were going to stick this out until after Christmas ... and then move forward from there.  We've had a few minor discussions about things and  - tell me if this is bizarre - our conversations are flowing better than they ever had.  Don't get me wrong - this isn't making me feel some resurgence of emotion ... but it makes for a calm atmosphere despite the turmoil lurking below the surface.  For anyone who tried for some length of time to reconcile and then realized that it was over ... did you and your FWS experience this sense of relief and calm - or did the animosity kick into high gear again?

Kara

As soon as the money issue came up (who will get what) mine went into high-gear again. I don't think that is uncommon. We also had a calm before the storm. My lawyer said most couples get over that storm and get more civil (not all) after the agreements are done and over with. That was definitely true of mine.

Charlie