My first (of many) affair-recovery books was "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Affair-Proof Love" - Lana Staheli, Ph.D. (with Sonia Weiss). Five and a half years ago, "Complete Idiot ...." felt very much like the best place to start (with the possible exception of "Affair-Proof Love for Dummies".)
The Complete Idiot's Guide contains "quick and easy guidance to keeping your relationship free from affairs". An ordinary idiot might buy the book before d-day but an extra-ordinarily complete idiot is sure to wait until after the horse has left the barn.
The Complete Idiot's Guide features "idiot-proof steps for reading the early warning signs of an affair". Early-warning signs were very useful in my case. Although I had spotted 99 of 100 possible early-warning signs, as a complete idiot, I was completely blind to 10 out of 10 signs. (Here's yer sign.)
The Complete Idiot's Guide provided "down-to-earth advice for surviving an affair". None of that theoretical, psychobabbly, pie-in-the-sky advice for this complete idiot - this complete idiot needed nothing less than 100%, Grade A, certified down-to-earth advice.
And (as if that wasn't enough) The Complete Idiot's Guide included (at no extra charge) tips on how a complete idiotcan identify and avoid habits that can cause their partner to have an affair.
For $17 and change? That's more than a complete idiotshould hope for.
You invented the quickie divorce, now invent the quickie recovery. And I'll have a copy too, please.
What's mocha?
I think a really quick quide to recovery would be to have your memory electronically erased...
Dec. 30, 2003-Feb. 3, 2005, filing to final decree. That's 13 months and a week by my count.
Nothing quick about it, and according to the "experts" my state is the "easiest" in which to get a divorce.
Child custody seems to be the biggest drag on the process. Property division was easy in comparison, but I can see that there'd be plenty of opportunity to drag that out, too.
I am hopeful that I never have another year like that again. One way to avoid it for sure is to "just say no" to (re)marriage.
Monday, I was laughing with a (gay) friend who is separating. I told him "at least it won't cost you thousands and thousands in legal fees."
You must live in England then? It's approx 90 pence per litre here. Can you guys in the US beat that? And cigarettes (Cory) are approx £5.00 for 20 depending on where you buy them.
Beat that.
And we have too many people in too small an island, and where I live in Bristol, I can drive my taxi from the airport to the centre of the city in 20 minutes, in rush hour, make that an hour, and if there's an RTA or some other hold up (ice is a good one) up to 3 hours. That's the record, 3 hours due to frozen snow.
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There's always someone worse off than you!!!
Sandy, gasoline has hit its highest nominal price ever in the US this week, but it was "only" $2.29 per gallon in my city. It dropped back to $2.07 during the day yesterday.
Petrol is cheaper in the US that just almost anywhere which helps to explain the Hummer and the Suburban. Insurance probably dwarfs petrol in the total cost of ownership.
How do you say "auto insurance" in the UK? "Car assurance"? That doesn't sound right.
And you have to have it AND your MOT certificate (Ministry of Transport test to assure car is safe and roadworthy once a year and it costs about £25 just to get the certificate, not counting the cost of repairs if there's something wrong, which there always is) in order to get your Road Tax Certificate which varies on the size of the engine,(minimum about £60 for 6 months) which is why we've all got little iddy biddy cars!! That, and the roads are skinny, and the fact that there's too many people on too small an island and you get little cars cos they're easier to park. Then we have the good old Community Charge, or whatever the latest name is for it, I've given up keeping track of the name changes, only look at the price increases and the bigger the house (or more expensive) the higher the charge. Ours is currently £140 per month, yes, month, and they've just announced its going up again.
What's cheap here? Fresh air. But not air for your car tyres (in some garages you have to pay 20p for a few spurts). If you don't mind the quality, you can get a loaf of bread for 25p. You have to pay to have a TV which is to pay for the BBC (the one with no adverts) but even if you never watch that channel, you still have to pay!! Luckily for us, if you have an 87 yr old in the house, you don't have to pay it, so I'm not sure of the cost, but I think they've just put that up to and I think its £140 per year.
So basically, if you visit England, bring your own petrol with you (sorry, gas)
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In the Toronto area, we are hovering around 0.90 cents per litre of gas. I remember (in the not so distant past) when gas prices reaching 0.70 cents per litre happened only on long weekends (when everyone is filling up fast and furious to head up north to cottage country).
Ah, I remember the good old days in the late 70's and early 80's when I would try to run the tank dry just over the border into Canada because gas was so much cheaper there. And I would be sure to fill up on the north side of the border on the way home. No more. Now when I travel north, I carry a "conversion" chart with me to convert $CDN per litre into something that I understand (US$ per gallon).
Today near work gas was $2.07 but on the way home (12 miles) I saw it as high as $2.23. You can't tell me there's some real difference in cost that accounts for that...the same tanker truck probably runs the same route as I do!
>>I'm just talking about abstaining from marriage licenses, though.<<
I remember after my 1st divorce, my ex-mother in law lamented to me that "it's too easy to get a divorce". I think as upset as she was with her daughter, she was upset with me that I didn't fight.
My reply to her, "I think it's too easy to get married". Then several months later, dumbass here decided to go and get married again.
