Could we have a 'thingy' devoted to sex and the problems surrounding it? I don't know what you call it, but, you know what I mean -- open, further, discovery, divorce, SEX. Ok you'll probably say that can be dealt with elsewhere, it's just an idea from a dummy.
Charlie, I aint having any sex, so it would be a blank page which probably wouldn't be very interesting.
Chris, I mean, you know we have 'open' and 'further' and 'divorce' well, each of those, from what I can gather are kind of reserved for certain people in certain situations: like I think there are ones that are only for the betrayed, but open is, well, open to all, the betrayers as well. I think (might be wrong) that all the pages are about affairs and recovery, and I was thinking that 'sex' in general is a big issue when it comes to affairs, and maybe we could have a 'bit' just for it, which would be open to anyone. Oh dear! I've just re-read that and it sounds like I'm asking you for a bit...!
Anyway, it was just a thought, but maybe it's better to just leave it as it is and use 'open', I was just scared I might upset someone who didn't want to read about nitty gritty stuff.......
<<Oh dear! I've just re-read that and it sounds like I'm asking you for a bit>>
I've read that twice this morning and laughed out loud both times. You have such an open honest way about you and hold nothing back. I appreciate that in a person.
>>>I was just scared I might upset someone who didn't want to read about nitty gritty stuff>>>
One of the things the administrators agreed on (one of many) when starting this forum was that we wanted it to be an "adult" site where people could discuss issues without being tightly moderated. Certainly there are cases where some folks might be embarrassed when certain subjects are being discussed. But I have a hard time imagining someone being "upset" at someone else for sharing their thoughts and trying to get help. And I think that applies to all of the boards here. My personal rule has always been, if it is something I don't feel comfortable reading or responding to, then I just move on and go to the next post.
We have some pretty clear forum rules and guidelines (IMO) on this board and as long as people adhere to those then I think you are free to discuss most topics on any of the boards. If you'll notice, the sex threads usually get quite a few responses. So clearly it's something quite a few people are open to discussing.
I'll tell you one thing though. If we do add a Sex forum, I don't want the job of moderating it.
I am an open and honest person, which is probably why this lack of total honesty and openness from my husband is getting me down so much.
Actually, when you said on another page about what people look like, and I've said my bit, I was thinking of saying that bit about my personality. People comment on it all the time, maybe its my Oz upbringing!! But, not everyone likes it - but mostly people 'get me'. In fact, I just thought of another thing about myself, so I'm going back over there to edit it!!
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Maybe not a 'sex' board, but an 'other' board. Like, I've just added a thread about The Pope on open, and yet its for people who have suffered throught infidelity.... but I only want to talk to the people I 'know' here to express my sympathy to them, so I dunno. I'll just shut up and use my new found knowledge from GT
Sandy, I'd like to underline what GT wrote. As you pointed out, sex as a subject of discussion arises fairly naturally on these boards. I don't remember reading any objections to posts about sex on any board...we're all adults, and we are all interested in what others think and feel about the marital experience.
Furthermore, you are probably right about your straightforward nature being a product of your upbringing. It's been my observation on these kinds of boards for years that the Aussies and Americans are usually the most, er, "unreserved", owing to the "wide open" culture in each nation. The mother country shipped some of her outcasts here for a while too.
