Where do I start? My husband of 39 years has been having an emotional affair with someone he deals with at work (both in different states) via the telephone. I discovered late night phone calls 10 months ago, then they said they loved each other. They've never met. When I discovered it they said it would end. 4 weeks ago I found out it hadn't ended. He says he loves me but he loves her too. He says he never wanted our marriage to end. He wants us to rebuild our marriage. He said he wasn't lacking anything in our marriage, he just got carried away with phone calls etc. How do I rebuild the trust? I had just started trusting him when I found out that things really didn't end like he said they did.

He says he now has no contact with her. When I first discovered the affair they were having late night phone calls from home. Then they changed to early morning phone calls, him at work, her at home. How can I start trusting him? He seems like he is genuinely sincere. Sometimes he just starts sobbing for the pain he has put me through.

I am new to this site so I will have to go back and read all of the posts. Anyone experience the same kind of thing, an emotional affair?

Thanks

Kathy

Kathy, a copy of your post is posted on the "Discovery" board, where most new folks post. I think you'll get more response there.

Chris.