hi all
my fist post, but i have been reading for months. thank you all.
we are together 15 years, married 10. we each left our marriages for each other - an affair (red flag #1 - I know). this is my husbands third marriage.
he has had 3 affairs during out marriage. he has a confident, capable persona (president and ceo of a company) which is hiding low self esteem; this makes him vulnerable to young, "helpless" women who are drawn to his "power, money" whatever, who think he is "just wonderful".
the discovery of this last affair (since Nov 06) has broken me, and i am ready to get out. he is begging to stay together, remorseful, agrees to go to therapy (this is an absolute first) to understand why, why, why he does these things. wants me to come if i want, even just to listen.
has agreed to full transparency, has given me all his bills, passwords, everything (this too is an absolute first).
has agreed to a post nup, putting everything in my name in event of another infidelity (is this legal?)
help: can any of you recommend a therapist in the boston area who has experience with this compulsive lying, serial cheating pattern? or do you know of someone who can recommend someone.
yes it hurts.
hoping for the best, planning for the worst.
thank you so much.
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