You moving into your own nest is a good thing - albeit a difficult time you are moving on with child and puppies

I wish you peace and the freedom to be.

And as you walk you make your path Kat

Chris,

I too have moved. A new home with new prospects.

After separating, I moved into a one bedroom apartment. I chose the place because it was small (I didn't have much), cheap (maney was going to be an issue) and close to my children's home (about a mile down the same road).

Alone in that dump, I went to find a new life. It was my first time ever living alone. I found a new me there. But I also ached there. It was my place to grieve and let go.

Two months ago, I moved to a new place. Much larger, brighter and nicer. A new home can represent a new begining. No more painful reminders. I hope your new home has the same positive feel for you as mine has for me.

Jack

Thanks for posting the update. You've come a long way in your personal growth in the past few years and it shows everytime you write a post. It's been an incredible thing to watch. And I mean that in the nicest way possible.

You're a good man Chris. Good luck in your new place.

GT

 

Jack wrote>> found a new me there>>>>>No more painful reminders. I hope your new home has the same positive feel for you as mine has for me>>

Good for you Jack. I'm glad your new home has been a fresh beginning. 

GT

 

Chris- Three dogs! What a guy! I'm going to get my puppy in ten weeks, that's when they separate them from the mom,

This week-end I'm going to plant strawberries in a raised bed, I guess I'm really putting down roots. I've given up "waiting" for my life to begin if my H and I get back together. I'm doing whatever I want, whenever I want. As long as I'm loving and kind, I guess I can do that.

When I was married, there was a long time, that I didn't go anywhere unless I cleared it with my H.

WERE FREE!!

Bless you and the boys and your new canine filled home.


TLMM

Chris,

During the last couple years of 'that' house and horrendous interactions with the X, my blood pressure was frequently on the highest end of normal. I never had any issue with it before, but the doc was contemplating meds. Yuck.

I've just gone through a barrage of doctor appointments again due to injuring my hand, and had BP readings at each appointment. All have been very good. One nurse marveled at my 'calm' BP reading. It seems to have settled back to normal again.

I don't super duper like living in an apartment but it's my little space for now. This seems to draw more calm for longer periods. I know that it'll take much more time to lose the triggers and things that made my BP rise.

Even driving by the two houses we owned makes me upset....let alone residing in one.

Now I can look ahead to things that might be. Maybe I'll have a nice home again some time. The more I look ahead the less I look behind.

RW wrote, "The more I look ahead the less I look behind."

Wow - that line struck a chord with me! How true!

Kara

P.S. Sorry for the threadjack!

Hey I want a new home and a new beginning!!!! LOL

In retrospect keeping my house may have been the wrong decision............oh well at least it was MY decision LOL

Thanks for the kind words, everyone.

Kat, . Nothing else to say.

MM, if it had been up to me I'd have had only one or two dogs at a time. But the old one is now 9 and the other two are 5...it's like when you think you have "too many" kids. Which one do you give up? (You don't.)

GT, thank you. You helped.

Jack, my move is not unlike your first one. If I didn't have the dogs, I'd have moved to a small apartment too. Small house will be tough enough to condense into. Fortunately there's a 2.5 car garage out back that will function as a storage unit until I can have a big ol' sale of the stuff that doesn't fit or that I don't want.

RW, I find that my idea of a "nice" place has changed considerably. I'm simplifying, and no matter how much my economic life ever changes for the better, I just can't see having a big place again. Shoot, this ol' barn is an average or below-average size house (around 2200 square feet), and I already want a lot less than that. I've never really been a "thing" person, and this is making me even less so. I'd rather spend what money and time I have on other things now.

Chris.

are you saying you are moving in your new home over the week end, Chris???

I dread the day we need to move - the attic is full (lol) of "stuff"...and both my H and I have "pack rat" tendencies...

So when is the house warming party??? Have you put your "old" house on the market yet?? Inquiring minds etc.. etc...


And as you walk you make your path Kat

Kat, not sure if the landlord's done with renovations and painting yet, and I have been too busy to chase him down. (I just replaced three of six employees. I have never before hired three people on the same day in 15 years in this business.)

Chris.

Think of the benefits Chris.........you can train them all together too

Are you saying that your just going with the "what the hell they look employable" syndrome!?