Folks, as you know I am in the UK so getting to chat is not so easy, when I go look you guys and gals are (most likely I suppose)watching CSI, or some such light entertainment or eating, then when I head to slumber you guys are getting in the mood to chat. Soooooooooooooo,can anyone give me a time slot when I won't find myself 'talking to myself' I can do that around here most nights after 8pm when the little one has gone to bed! LOL I mean hey the dog is great company but his vocabulary is somewhat limited!
Also guys which room? I was betting on Open.
Thanks
JeanUK
What does 8pm your time translate to on Eastern time. Is it about 6 hours behind? I'd be happy to chat sometime if I know when your on and can work it out.
Charlie,
thanks so much for coming back to me. Time zones, until the clocks change here in the UK on 27th (I think it is April 3rd in the US?) I am -5 on eastern -6 central -7 mountain and -8 pacific. Not sure of other places in the world like OZ, depends on where in OZ, but I can always ask jeeves!
I can get on most nights anytime and some days anytime. Just let me know when you might be able to get around and I will come look also.
That goes for anyone else who might be able to make the time fit sometime.
Thanks.
Jean UK
If I remember, Chris suggested meeting in chat tonight (Saturday) at 8:00 p.m. his (Indianapolis) time. I make that 1:00 a.m. London time, 5:00 p.m. Oregon time, and 7:00 p.m. Dallas time.
Jeannie - eight o'clockish London time would make be three o'clockish in Indiana. Would you be willing to organize a chat time that might be convenient for our pint-of-real-ale swilling, yorkshire-pudding munching brethren and sistren? Perhaps weekly or fortnightly?
...Q's table is good only for a day. The Brits shift forward on Daylight Saving Time Sunday whilst most Yanks wait a week.
And in the US, Indiana doesn't ever change clocks, so we shift to "Central" time from "Eastern" next weekend when the rest of the US fiddles with their VCR's and alarm clocks. Avid fans of the TV drama "West Wing" may recall that this was one of the humor elements in an episode several years back.
(Indiana's State Legislature, dubbed by some "America's Worst State Legislature", has literally been arguing all my life about time-zone issues. As we are on the edge of two timezones, our sunlight hours are a bit crazy so the compromise has been not to observe DST. If we stayed with New York all year, we'd have daylight until 10pm in mid-summer, but we'd get up in darkness. Farmers/stockmen have long argued that this would confuse their herds.)
More than anyone needed to know...LOL.
Anyway, there's a scheduled chat in the Open Chatroom tonight, March 26, at 8:30pm Eastern US time.
Hi Jean!
Well, I'm in the UK, so that's the good news. The bad news is I work shifts so can't always get onto computer and also have to do it when H isn't around because he says we're all wallowing in our grief... he calls it the nutters board. Apart from the fact that I wish he knew the meaning of the word grief, I will try and find you when I'm able to.
For the rest of you, mostly in the US, our clocks change tonight making us one hour ahead of GMT. So, I think there are 4? time zones in the US, so its kinda hard to figure, especially today with the clocks going forward. As of this minute, it is 1850 GMT but tomorrow now would be 1950!! How confusing is this????
Spring forward and fall back. I thought every country in the whole world changed the clocks on the same day? Or those that do so, do, if you know what I mean. I know they do it in Europe and Australia on the same day as us.
Anyway, Jean, hope to chat soon
Love Sandy xxxx
PS It would probably help if you read my story on members forum, I'm off to look for yours now xxxx
Can't find your story. You're not the same person as Jean150 are you?
Talking of times, you'll notice that I said I posted last one at 1850, and you'll also notice that its come up as being posted at 12 something, so there's a clue with the time problem.
xxx
Also, Australia change on same day as us except Queensland don't change at all....
This is too difficult for my brain!!
This message has been edited by sandy6957 on Mar 26, 2005 1:58 PM
Hi guys
thanks for all the responses.
Yes Sandy as you say the clocks change here tonight - officially at 2am.
Sandy guess what, I work shifts too! Maybe we can arrange something that might fit around them? I have on occasions joined chat when on my break on nightshift depending on how busy work has been i.e if I get a break!
No I am not Jean 150 have not yet posted my story been meaning to get around to it:(
Quinn, yeas I would be willin gto try to sort something out How about I wait until the US changes clocks and then will re calculate the timezone things Chris will have to help me out with his I thought there was an area of the US that did not change.
So I had better get off to bed now as it is 15 after midnight here and I am going to loose an hours sleep now anyhow!
'Nite all
Jean UK
I can be around sometimes, for chat, but if I suddenly disappear, don't be offended, its as I said before, he hates me being here, so I haven't told him I am, so if he walks in, I just quickly exit and tell him a lie about how I was looking at something else
xxx
You keep saying how your H hates you being on here. I guess that leads me to an important question that you can answer only if you wish ;>) Is he abusive? I mean physically? Because if he isn't, he is controlling you by trying to keep you off this site and that just AIN'T right. My ex was an ass and tried to tell me how much he hated me on here too, but when it came to my mental health it was none of his fricken business. I would understand if your H is abusive why your not on here because he doesn't like it but that opens up another can of worms.
No offence taken! Not sure if its bullying or controlling. What he SAYS is 'there all a bunch of nutters getting together feeling sorry for themselves and its not helping you to move forward' So he sounds like Mr Reasonable. I've told him they/we are not like that and to take a look at some of the practical advice that I've been given, often which 'sides' with him, if you get my meaning, but he's pretty arrogant and says he's got better things to do with his time. Another reason why I feel he's not truly remorseful, but that's another subject. He also says that being on here keeps it fresh in my mind, instead of 'forgetting all about it and moving on' which is what I think he'd really like.
So you tell me, I don't know!!
xxx
Yep. Over the last six years of nuttie affair recovery I've seen these nutters deal with Sexually Transmitted Disease suprises, babies born that no one knew about and yet years of child support must be paid out of the household budget, financial ruin, bankruptcy, loss of dream homes, long-term damage to children, permanent fractures of friends and families, suicides, murders (I witnessed one), and more!
considerable emotional trauma, post traumatic stress disorder, physical effects to the body brought on by stress, ongoing medical bills and I'm sure there is more that we haven't mentioned.
Regards,
H2nutter
This message has been edited by hurt2core on Mar 29, 2005 9:50 AM
... and (may I have the envelope please?) the number one reason given by unfaithful spouses to explain why their betrayed spouses shouldn't read or post on reffair accovery bessage moards ...
>>'there all a bunch of nutters getting together feeling sorry for themselves and its not helping you to move forward'<<
Glad to hear, or I think I heard he is not physically abusive. It also leads me to think you should take some of that control back and tell him tough shit, that you like us "nutters" and you don't really care if he likes it or not!
Another BIGGY reason why he probably doesn't want you on here is probably not only that he thinks you won't let things go but he might actually have to face the pain he's dealt you and act like a decent person and he just doesn't want to do that. I think the "F### you" that my marriage counselor told me could also apply to what your H needs :>)
I'm not advising it, however, I'd feel horrible if you dealt with any physical abuse because you did something that I suggested but I hate the fact that he is indeed controlling you by this. My ex did stuff like that so that is why it bothers me so much to see it happen to someone else.
"Chris Yes, I realise that his behaviour is violent, but he actually blames me!! He will throw stuff at me and my Mum and then say he was doing it in self defence"
Okay, totally forget what I said up above. I guess there is physical abuse. I'm sorry your going through this and I really don't think you should just wait until he kills you likes you mentioned in that same post.
