Thanks for reposting your story. It's funny the little things that I remember about people. I remembered this:

>> .... he had bought her the same gifts for Christmas ... <<

Selfishly, I'm glad you posted" >>He went from "spend the rest of my life making it up to you" to "get over it" pretty quickly<< It gets me grateful that I pretty much got "get over it" from the get go.

You deserve a Happy Mother's Day in 2005.

P.S. Do you remember ruby from BAN?

"It gets me grateful that I pretty much got "get over it" from the get go."

Yeah right. It is really great to hear that. Now on the few occasions I try to discuss anything about our relationship I get "you'll never get over it". Oh well, guess not.

I didn't even write about so much of the drama. It's just a backdrop for the subsequent issues/behavior.

"You deserve a Happy Mother's Day in 2005."

Thanks, I learned last year that spending it with my kids is the way to go. I had a great Mother's Day weekend last year, I went away with my son and my H went away play golf with his brothers. I got home in time to go to my daughter's game and had dinner just with my kids. This is why I would never get married again, I need my independence and space too much and I have become enough of a b*tch to tell him I don't want his company. Who'd want to be married to that?

"Do you remember ruby from BAN?"

I certainly do, she is one of the wonderful women I met IRL a couple of years ago, along with Nic and Cath. Unfortunately when my computer crashed last year I lost her email address and lost touch. She is a really lovely person and hope she is doing well.

Thanks, --Rosie

>>This is why I would never get married again, I need my independence and space too much and I have become enough of a b*tch to tell him I don't want his company. Who'd want to be married to that?<<

I'll tell you who.

A guy who needs his own independence and space and has become enough of a jerk to say clearly when he wants to be left alone and when he wants company. Such a man would enjoy the company and support of a woman who knows herself just as well as he knows himself.

I'm beginning to think most people (men and women) who fit that description are, oh, say, about 40-50 and have been through this grinder and have used the experience to clarify things for and about themselves.

I can think of one very good example.

Of course, your mileage may vary.

Chris.

Why, thank you. That was a very nice thing to say. --Rosie